When you play relationship games, everyone loses.
Regardless of your current commitment level, managing expectations is key to any successful relationship/booty call/sex friendship/one night stand, etc.
This is especially important for all you playah-playahs out there.
If you’re looking to keep it foot loose and fancy free it’s imperative to make sure you’re both on the same page.
Even when you’re up front from the start, things can get a little awkward, and people’s feelings can get hurt.
This is when you have to man up and be an adult.
Instead of disappearing when a girl gets too close, just tell her the truth.
“Look, I think we want different things. You want me to be your boyfriend and I just want to put my penis in you. I could say we’ll stay friends, but we more than likely won’t. If you want to get freaky every now and then though, that’s cool with me. Just don’t expect anything more than a ‘hey what’s up?’ text somewhere in the midnight – 2am range.”
Either she’ll think you’re the world’s biggest douchebag or she’ll appreciate the honesty and you’ll live happily ever after, casually bumping uglies until one of you finds something better.
Now for all you lady playah-playahs, the same rules apply.
There is no excuse for doing a dine and dash on sexy time.
Be up front from the beginning and if you think a man is catching feelings –
Be an adult and have the difficult conversation.
“I really enjoy spending time with you (getting penetrated by you) but I think we want different things. You want to lock all this fabulousness down but I just want to jump your bones every now and then. We can continue to be sex friends so long as you understand there will not be anything more down the road. I’ll continue to text you after I’ve had a couple (too many) and am looking to get stuffed.”
Most guys will jump at the offer of strings free sex. If that’s not what he’s looking for, he’ll appreciate your honesty and you’ll amicably go your separate ways.
So remember, act like an adult.
Be honest, always use protection, and everyone wins.
Happy Humping 🙂