There’s this great list from Glamour I kept on my fridge for years.
When I cut it out I don’t think I really understood it, but I figured they were things I could work towards (I was sixteen at the time).
There’s now an equally amazing book that came from said list, full of wonderful life lessons from awe inspiring women (my personal fave is from Maya Angelou).
As I approach my big 3-0 I’ve been thinking about all the life lessons I’ve personally learned along the way.
I’ve forgotten some of them from time to time.
A couple that I’m definitely old enough to know better!
So I figured I’d write down the top 30 lessons I’ve learned thus far and see if I could save someone else a little trouble 🙂
1.) Family is the most important thing. And it’s not just the family you’re born with.
2.) Stop making up stories explaining the events in your life and just except them. The more time your spend analyzing you life the less time you spend living it.
3.) If it seems too good to be true – it is.
4.) Always trust your gut. That niggling feeling that something isn’t quite right, is always right.
5.) Music is the miracle of life. It has the power to validate your feelings, make a bad day better, celebrate good times, nurse a broken heart, and help you keep on keepin’ on.
6.) Be honest. It’s hard. I know. If you don’t have the balls to be honest with others, at least be honest with yourself.
7.) No one is going to take care of you. Save your pennies and always have some “fuck you” money stashed away.
8.) Everyone has their own narrative and they are rarely EVER the same.
9.) Always be yourself. The most authentic version of yourself you can manage. Never EVER water down your personality for anyone. It’s the best part about you girl 😉
10.) My parents are truly amazing people.
11.) Talk is cheap. No matter what people SAY it’s what they DO that actually matters. So pay attention.
12.) You can fool yourself better than you can fool anyone else.
13.) Perception really is reality. There’s nothing you can do to change that, so stop wasting your time worrying about what other people think.
14.) Opportunity is usually disguised as hard work.
15.) Dogs are better than most people.
16.) This too shall pass is a true story. Good or bad, life changes on a dime. Always appreciate what you have.
17.) Stop trying to fast forward your life. Slow the fuck down and just take it all in. It really is all about the journey. Don’t get me wrong, goals are good, but it’s how you get there that really matters.
18.) Be BOLD. Ain’t nobody got time for that pansy ass shit. Figure out what you want and go for it.
19.) Credit cards are a slippery slope. Pay off your balance at the end of each month. You’ll save thousands in interest rates and countless headaches.
20.) Have an excellent tailor and hairdresser. They’ll make you look like a million bucks even when you can’t afford a cup of coffee. (For those of you in the area: Amber LaBorde at Visual Changes in Longmeadow, MA is beyond amazing and A Perfect Fit in Agawam, MA is the only tailor I’ve ever met who continually tries to save me money and does wonderful work with an unheard of turnaround.)
21.) Mind your manners. Especially if you’re sometimes socially challenged. Remembering what your Mama taught you will get you successfully through most interactions and keep you out of hot water.
22.) Read more. Books have lessons we’re all familiar with but hearing someone else’s troubles helps us actually learn them.
23.) A bra that fits right will change your life. Seriously go get fitted for one. I know, it’s awkward and weird but it’s worth it.
24.) Jealousy really is a monster. Keep an eye out for that bitch. She’ll sneak up on you if you’re not careful.
25.) Climbing a mountain will clear your head of all your worries. Even a small mountain 🙂
26.) Learn how to LET GO. (I have to admit I’m still working on this one. It’s super hard sometimes.)
27.) Expectations can be a dangerous thing to have. Manage yours well.
28.) Sex does NOT equal intimacy.
29.) Learn how to confront people effectively. Keeping emotions bottled up inside isn’t healthy, but neither is flying off the handle when you can’t take it anymore. Address your issues upfront and you’ll feel much better in the long run.