Category Archives: Change

Good Enough

As much as I am head over heels in love with my new job, it takes up far more of my time than anticipated.

Lately, I feel as though I’ve been phoning in certain areas of my life in order to accommodate all that I would like to accomplish.

Sadly, one of the victims of my time crunch is Adventures in Adulthood.

Instead of having the time to fully form my thoughts and craft witty, clever posts, I’ve been slacking – just a bit.

slacking off

It doesn’t help that it’s summertime and there are a thousand things I would rather do on a sunny afternoon than sit inside banging away on my laptop.

When I was bartending I could work on the blog during slow weeknights.

Which gave me time to revise and edit until I found the perfect wording for what I was trying to say.

Now 300 or so coherent words on a relevant topic and that’s good enough.

At first I was disappointed in myself for not having prepared better.

feels bad man

But the accelerated pace at which I must now write and post has actually helped.

Being a Type A Perfectionist, I have never enjoyed the quote:

voltaire quote

But, it has become quite accurate for my circumstances.

I’ve come to the understanding that if I want to continue with my blogging adventure (and I very much do) I will need to do more with less.

It has made me far more focused, as I don’t have the time to just write and see where it takes me.

Which has made me think about the other aspects of my life that could benefit from a little less over-thinking.

overthinking

Yes, I know thinking about over-thinking is over-thinking.

It’s my Achilles heel šŸ˜¦

I blame the Girl Scouts for teaching us to always be prepared.

But, I’m working on it.

And that will just have to be good enough.

Advertisements

1 Comment

Filed under Change, Climbing the Ladder, following your dreams, growing up

Sharing Sucks

I hate to share.

I know I’m an “adult”.

We’re supposed to bask in the pure joy of giving to our fellow man.

Eff that.

I’ve always hated to share.

Maybe it’s because I’m the oldest and deep down I resent having to share my parents with my younger brother.

I don't wanna!

I don’t wanna!

Maybe I’m just a selfish asshole.

Whatever the reason, sharing sucks.

The only time I actually enjoy sharing is when it comes to food.

If I’m torn between two menu items and the person I’m with is willing to order both and split them, I’m happier than a fat kid with cake.

Nom Nom Nom

Nom Nom Nom

However, once we divvy up the loot, keep your fork on your own plate buddy!

And don’t even think of stealing a bite without asking!

Now I am willing to share, but I’m a control freak, so of course I have to be the one who picks what is shared.

God forbid you take my “perfect bite”.

(For those of you not obsessed with food this is the bite you save for last. It’s the perfect mix of the textures and flavors in a dish. The taste you want to remember the meal by.)

Stealing the “perfect bite” is a severe sharing transgression.

But, even I can admit, it’s just food.

The worst sharing transgressions are of course when you’re forced to share.

Sharing sucks!

That’s just turrible šŸ˜¦

No one asks if you. It just happens.

My new position is with a smaller company than I’m used to.

There’s no “that’s not my job” going on, it’s quite nice most of the time.

But then there’s the time someone else does something you consider your responsibility.

The polite thing to do is say, “thank you”.

They’re waiting for you to say, “thank you”.

I really don’t want to say, “thank you”.

What I want to say is:

Why would you do that?? Nobody asked you to do that!?!

AARRRGGGGGHH!!!

AARRRGGGGGHH!!!

But I can’t.

I smile and say “thank you”.

Because I’m an adult and even though sharing sucks, I guess it sucks a little less when someone’s just trying to help out.

But, I’m warning you – keep your fork on your own plate!

1 Comment

Filed under Change, Climbing the Ladder, deal breakers, etiquette, growing up

Judgey Wudgey Was a Bear

woman's mind

And at least 1,347 of those tabs are open to something we said or did, we’re currently obsessing over not having gotten quite right.

You can meet the smartest, most successful woman on earth, but I bet you $1000 there are at least 3 things she thinks she’s done wrong in the last week, that she can’t seem to let go of.

The judgement of others can be harsh, but there’s nothing compared to the judgement we pass on ourselves.

I for one, am tired of the constant loop of let-downs I review in the wee hours of the night.

finish each day emerson quote

Why is it five years later I can remember in detail an off-handed criticism from someone I don’t even like, but the last compliment I received is a little fuzzy??

I would never speak to someone I love in the harsh, judgmental voice I reserve for myself late at night.

If one of my friends came to me obsessing over some slight or slip-up, I would help them look at the big picture.

Illustrate that while they may have messed up this time it does not define them as a failure.

you have a glass

So why can’t I be that rational, supportive friend to myself??

Sometimes it feels as though there are two different women who live in my head.

One’s a smart, kind, cleverly talented, rational woman.

The other is Judgey Wudgey the Bear.

And I’m not talking about some cute little bear:

cute bear

Judgey Wudgey is a mean ol’ bitch:

angry bear

And she’s always cranky!

I’ve been trying to find new ways to silence the snarky bitch.

Since coming out of hibernation, she’s been overly articulate and quite nosy.

Digging up the past like she’s foraging for food.

I haven’t really had much success in getting her to STFU!

STFU

Even as I write this I can hear her mocking me, “boo hoo, poor little girl got her feelings hurt”.

So I’m going to start writing her bullshit down.

Much like I list the things I’m grateful for each day.

In order to maintain an objective frame of mind, I will now also include the day’s top five judgements.

Maybe if I have to acknowledge them on paper, I can forgive myself my transgressions and move on.

Or maybe I’ll see how truly ridiculous and mean-spirited Judgey Wudgey is and learn to ignore her.

let it go

Wish me luck!

How do you let go of your inner critic?

Leave a comment

Filed under Change, Climbing the Ladder, dating, family, following your dreams, friendship, growing up, Happiness Project, inspiration, quotes

It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

beginning of something else mr rogers quote

Beautify Me:

6 green beauty recipes straight from your kitchen.

Inspirational:

Live life like a love letter. A manifesto for living positively.

Dollars and Sense:

Do you tweet? Here are 10 personal finance experts to follow.

Follow Your Dreams:

Who says you have to let your dreams die to become a “grown-up”??

Body Lovin’:

Everyone who has ever felt bad about her looks should take a gander at this.

Out on the Town:

Have you ever heard of PostSecret? It’s pretty amazing and they’re coming to Connecticut!

Giggles and Such:

32 of the world’s coolest and happiest facts šŸ™‚

Once you find a poutine you really like, you put a ring on it.

let's see what happens

science is funny

don't trust joggersHave a great weekend!!

Leave a comment

Filed under beauty, Change, DIY, Finally Friday, following your dreams, food, giggles and such, growing up, health, inspiration, money, Out on the Town, photgraphy, quotes, technology, videos

Untie Me

Almost everyone these days has a smartphone.

In fact, the only people I know who don’t, are my parents and my off-the-grid roomie who purposely downgraded to a “dumb” phone several years ago.

Don’t get me wrong I love my smartphone.

With Google in my pocket there’s not a random factoid I can’t find or a place I can’t figure out how to get to.

google

But, it can get overwhelming.

Sometimes it feels like I can’t get away.

I recently spent the weekend at my cousin’s lake house in New Hampshire.

lake house

Among it’s many attributes is the lack of cell coverage.

Or at least it used to be!

Thanks to AT&T, I now have 4G coverage out in the boonies.

Some of you might think I’m bat shit right now.

batshit

What’s so bad about having service??

Nothing. If you want to stay connected to the outside world.

But one of the things I love about my home away from home is unplugging.

Most of the time I don’t even bring my charger.

It’s insanely liberating.

Especially for someone who works in social media. Even when I want to cut the ties that bind me, I still have a job to do.

lake house 2

my home away from home šŸ™‚

In our hyper-connected, Facebook obsessed world, not having internet access completely changes your perspective.

If you’re trying to be more mindful, live more fully in the moment, or maybe trying a Happiness Project of your own, I highly recommend unplugging.

Have you ever gone out without your phone?

Did you feel naked?

Or does it make you feel free??

For me it’s a little of Column A, a little from Column B.

generation of idiots einstein quote

We’ve all see that group of friends out to dinner, eyeballs glued to their phones, instead of actually talking to each other.

Don’t be those people.

My Mom has this awesome rule of no phones at her dinner table.

It’s pretty rude when you think about it.

It’s okay to break bread together, but God forbid you have an actual face to face conversation?!

turn off your phone

The next time you’re out, leave your phone at home.

Or if you really can’t be without it, at least turn your ringer off.

The electronic tether is much easier to ignore if you can’t hear it.

It’s the polite thing to do.

Mom said so šŸ™‚

Leave a comment

Filed under Change, etiquette, family, food, friendship, Life Style, Out on the Town, technology, work

Everything, All at Once, Right Now!

I’m great at identify goals and the necessary steps to make said goals come true.

What I am NOT great at is maintaining the patience to achieve my goals.

god grant me patience

I drive much like I live my life.

As fast as possible without getting caught by the fuzz šŸ™‚

Reminding myself to slow down is a constant battle.

I remember when I was in high school, my Grandfather telling me, “don’t forget to stop and smell the roses.”

stop and smell the roses 3

Come on! If monkeys can do it, so can you!!

I rarely remember to take a beat when I hit a milestone or an accomplishment.

Instead of giving myself a pat on the back and an “atta girl!”, I immediately begin to focus on the next hurdle, the next chance to hit it out of the park.

As part of my Happiness Project, I am going to start giving myself permission to celebrate the small victories.

Who cares if that small victory is only measurable by me.

It’s my victory, dammit!

victory is mine

I think we’ve become a society with such an expectation and focus on success that we’ve forgotten how to recognize the hard work it takes to actually achieve success and we’ve definitely forgotten how to make time to bask in that success.

This week IĀ  challenge you to stop and smell the roses.

Yes, I know it’s February in New England.

So they will have to be metaphorical roses.

your metaphorical rose :)

your metaphorical rose šŸ™‚

But whenever you cross a finish line (no matter how small you feel it is), give yourself a little time-out to acknowledge your achievement.

I promise, it will alleviate that hamster-on-a-wheel feeling.

If only for a couple minutes…

Leave a comment

Filed under Change, Climbing the Ladder, dating, following your dreams, growing up, Happiness Project, inspiration

I have a dream…

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

What does your happily ever after look like?

The older I get the less attractive the traditional white picket fence scenario looks.

white-picket-fence-home

It’s a beautiful house, but I don’t want to be the one responsible for its upkeep and occupants.

Maybe it’s because I know the sacrifices that come with raising a family.

Or maybe I just have a deep, abiding love for alone time.

alone time

But the thought of getting married, making a home, and popping out 2.5 kids doesn’t make my heart race. (sorry Mom)

Falling in love and making a commitment to someone makes my heart race – but that could just be palpitations from a panic attack.

The thought of seeing the world; immersing myself in new and different cultures, traipsing through third world countries and having adventures with my partner in crime – now that definitely gets me going.

not all those who wander are lost

I’ve realized, I’m okay, not having the corner office, driving the shiny new car, buying stuff and things.

I’d rather fill my life with experiences than possessions.

adventure is the best way to learn

And I’m actually pretty good at being poor – guess it helps to be frugal – thanks Mom šŸ™‚

I think it’s time we all start giving ourselves permission, to openly and honestly, want what we truly want.

do your own thing

Say it out loud and start making it happen!

I want to quit my job(s), find work as a freelance writer, and travel.

quit your job

Anyone out there have any helpful hints on making that dream come true??

What would you do if money was not a factor?

Do you even know??

Leave a comment

Filed under Change, Climbing the Ladder, dating, following your dreams, growing up, money, travel, videos