Category Archives: Change

It’s the End of the World as We Know it

Unless you’ve been living completely off the grid, for years, you’re aware the world is supposed to end next Friday.

Just in case it really does and those crafty Mayans didn’t just run out of room on that pesky calendar, I’ve been thinking about what I’d like to do.

Kind of a super-accelerated bucket list.

If I knew I only had a week or so left to live, how I’d want to spend that time:

1.) Hug everyone I love. Yes, this would need to include teleportation or a private jet. But hey, it’s the end of the world – why not pull out all the stops??

hugs

2.) Eat enough bacon to make myself sick. While we’re at it you can add mashed potatoes with gravy, every kind of taco ever, my mother’s Tunnel of Fudge cake, and the risotto balls from The Federal in Agawam, MA to that list. I’ll also be drinking Veuve Clicquot with every meal. (Go big or go home, right?)

3.) Go skydiving.

skydiving

4.) Fly an airplane.

5.) Ride a Harley (solo). Travel Route 66 on said Harley. (I would also settle for traveling Route 66 in a classic Winnebago if I had a worthy travel companion.

harley

winnebago

6.) Fly to a tropical island, sunbathe nude, learn to surf, spend a day in a hammock tied between two palm tries, ride a horse bareback down the beach; all while holding an umbrella-adorned, frozen cocktail. (This would be a potential two-fer, as I could fly myself down to said island. Time is of the essence!).

7.) Dance. As much as possible.

8.) Drive a 1956 Jaguar XK140 Roadster down the Pacific Coast Highway.

roadster 2

9.) See as much (good) live music as possible. (This goes hand in hand with #7)

10.) And last but certainly not least, channel my inner super hero, Slap Girl, and freely slap the shit out of any stupid persons I have the misfortune to encounter.

slap

How about you guys??

What would you do if you knew you only had a week left to live?

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

“Not all of us have to posses earthshaking talent. Just common sense and love will do.” ~Myrtle Auvil

Around the World:

Are you a beer lover? Check out the 10 best beer bars in Boston.

Techie Love:

Always losing your phone? Never know where your keys are? Then this gadget was made for you!

Climbing the Ladder:

Are you transitioning careers? About to graduate college? Repurpose those writing assignments!

Inspirational:

Having a Dream Girls, “WHAT ABOUT ME?!?” kinda day? Read this.

Giggles and Such:

What if ladies acted like “gentlemen” at the bar?

christmas spirit

irish girl sunbathing

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Have a great weekend!

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Afraid For My Life

So I finally joined the 21st century and traded in my trusty old Crackberry Torch for a shiny new Samsung Galaxy S III.

Isn’t she pretty?! 🙂

I can’t lie though, the last week and a half has had a serious learning curve.

In case you were wondering, there’s absolutely nothing that prevents drunk texting/dialing better than not knowing how to use you phone!

I’ve managed to get a handle on it though and I think I might be in love.

But, now I’m terrified!

My whole life can be organized and cataloged on this one sleek piece of technology.

BUT WHAT IF I LOSE IT??!!??

I’ve talked before on A-n-A about my beloved planner.

I’m sorry girl. It’s not you. It’s me.

I never thought we’d part ways, but it’s time to retire the old girl 😦

I’ve spent a considerable amount of time transferring over all the comings and goings of my life from old school to new school.

So far it’s working out pretty well.

The calendar that came on my phone is pretty robust, although I do wish there was a better way to view my full day at a glance.

Supposedly I can sync to the calendar on my gmail, which is awesome! If only I could figure out how to do that…

I’ve also found a couple apps to help me keep track of my never-ending to-do list.

Astrid is an amazing app that reminds you to do EVERYTHING! If I miss a call this little cutie-patootie even reminds me to return,  saying, “Don’t you like getting a callback?”.

How cute is this little nugget?!

Evernote might be the coolest memo pad I’ve ever seen. I can make notes on anything via text, picture, or voice command. It’s pretty fricking cool! And it syncs to a cloud app on my lap top so I’ll never lose my notes if I happen to lose my phone!

An elephant never forgets!

So kids, how do you back-up your device?
Do you have a favorite organizer app?
Any suggestions for a better calendar app?

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Thirty Life Lessons

There’s this great list from Glamour I kept on my fridge for years.

When I cut it out I don’t think I really understood it, but I figured they were things I could work towards (I was sixteen at the time).

There’s now an equally amazing book that came from said list, full of wonderful life lessons from awe inspiring women (my personal fave is from Maya Angelou).

I’m not 30. I’m 29.95 plus tax

As I approach my big 3-0 I’ve been thinking about all the life lessons I’ve personally learned along the way.

I’ve forgotten some of them from time to time.

A couple that I’m definitely old enough to know better!

So I figured I’d write down the top 30 lessons I’ve learned thus far and see if I could save someone else a little trouble 🙂

1.) Family is the most important thing. And it’s not just the family you’re born with.

2.) Stop making up stories explaining the events in your life and just except them. The more time your spend analyzing you life the less time you spend living it.

3.) If it seems too good to be true – it is.

4.) Always trust your gut. That niggling feeling that something isn’t quite right, is always right.

5.) Music is the miracle of life. It has the power to validate your feelings, make a bad day better, celebrate good times, nurse a broken heart, and help you keep on keepin’ on.

6.) Be honest. It’s hard. I know. If you don’t have the balls to be honest with others, at least be honest with yourself.

7.) No one is going to take care of you. Save your pennies and always have some “fuck you” money stashed away.

8.) Everyone has their own narrative and they are rarely EVER the same.

9.) Always be yourself. The most authentic version of yourself you can manage. Never EVER water down your personality for anyone. It’s the best part about you girl 😉

10.) My parents are truly amazing people.

Seriously! They rock!

11.) Talk is cheap. No matter what people SAY it’s what they DO that actually matters. So pay attention.

12.) You can fool yourself better than you can fool anyone else.

13.) Perception really is reality. There’s nothing you can do to change that, so stop wasting your time worrying about what other people think.

14.) Opportunity is usually disguised as hard work.

15.) Dogs are better than most people.

He might eat your shoes, but he’ll never do you wrong.

16.) This too shall pass is a true story. Good or bad, life changes on a dime. Always appreciate what you have.

17.) Stop trying to fast forward your life. Slow the fuck down and just take it all in. It really is all about the journey. Don’t get me wrong, goals are good, but it’s how you get there that really matters.

18.) Be BOLD. Ain’t nobody got time for that pansy ass shit. Figure out what you want and go for it.

19.) Credit cards are a slippery slope. Pay off your balance at the end of each month. You’ll save thousands in interest rates and countless headaches.

20.) Have an excellent tailor and hairdresser. They’ll make you look like a million bucks even when you can’t afford a cup of coffee. (For those of you in the area: Amber LaBorde at Visual Changes in Longmeadow, MA is beyond amazing and A Perfect Fit in Agawam, MA is the only tailor I’ve ever met who continually tries to save me money and does wonderful work with an unheard of turnaround.)

21.) Mind your manners. Especially if you’re sometimes socially challenged. Remembering what your Mama taught you will get you successfully through most interactions and keep you out of hot water.

22.) Read more. Books have lessons we’re all familiar with but hearing someone else’s troubles helps us actually learn them.

23.) A bra that fits right will change your life. Seriously go get fitted for one. I know, it’s awkward and weird but it’s worth it.

24.) Jealousy really is a monster. Keep an eye out for that bitch. She’ll sneak up on you if you’re not careful.

25.) Climbing a mountain will clear your head of all your worries. Even a small mountain 🙂

26.) Learn how to LET GO. (I have to admit I’m still working on this one. It’s super hard sometimes.)

27.) Expectations can be a dangerous thing to have. Manage yours well.

28.) Sex does NOT equal intimacy.

29.) Learn how to confront people effectively. Keeping emotions bottled up inside isn’t healthy, but neither is flying off the handle when you can’t take it anymore. Address your issues upfront and you’ll feel much better in the long run.

30.) A new pair of shoes can change your life.

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Quit Yer Bitchin’

Chick flicks get a bad rap but, I love them!

Especially The Wedding Date.

Featuring this hunk-a-hunk of burning love.

Yum!

In the movie this slice of delicious is just as smart as he is sexy, and tells our hapless heroine, Debra Messing, that every woman has the exact love life they really want.

Love her!

Which, when you think about it, is also true of life in general.

Life is about choices people.

If you don’t like something about your life make a different choice.

This applies to all facets of life.

Hate your job?

Start looking for a new one.

In a shitty relationship?

Get out!

Always complaining about your looks/weight?

Go to the gym. Get a new haircut.

Stop complaining and start doing.

No one is going to fix your problems for you.

So quit your bitching and start making some changes!

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One is the Lonliest Number?

Do you do things alone??

Have you ever gone to the movies solo?

How about out to eat or to the bar?

I have no problem going to a bar solo if peeps I know will be there.

It’s 2012, females do NOT need an escort to go out and about in public.

I’ve even gone out to eat solo.

I have however, always brought a book with me, so that might not count…

And I sit at the bar because quite frankly I always feel a little sad for the people I see eating alone 😦

I have however, never gone to the movies alone.

I really want to see Trouble with the Curve.

Who doesn’t love Clint Eastwood?? Even after his bizarre RNC speech, I’ve still got a soft spot for Clint 🙂

So instead of brow beating one of my friends into going or waiting until it’s finally available on Netflix,

I’m going to the movies alone.

Have you ever gone to the movies solo?

I’ll let you know how it goes…

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

My parents were awesome and so is this tumblr.

Only in New York.

Could you live off the kindness of strangers??

Feeling like a failure??? Take a look at this:

10 places every American should see. How many have you been to??

Going on a road trip? The only app you’ll need.

All I really need to know I learned in kindergarten.

Desperate for a job? Check out these creative job search methods. My personal fave is #6!

2 questions everyone should ask themselves.

This asshole’s definitely Father of The Year material.

Apparently multitasking is BAD.

Why can’t camera straps be cute AND functional??

The next 10 years will define the next 10,000.

I’m obsessed with this!

You should be too! Get involved here and here.

And now for some giggles:

Poor white guys.

Shit nobody says.

How diets work.

The more colorful the thing the better it is for you!

Have a great weekend kids!

P.S. (I started an internship this week. That’s right folks! Between the two jobs and the blog I felt like I had too much free time so I decided to become a 30 year old intern! All jokes aside, due to the extremely limited free time I now have, Adventures In Adulthood will be going to a Wednesday and Friday publishing schedule. Enjoy!)

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Lay off!!

Why is it after a break-up, embarrassment, or failure we feel the need to torture ourselves with all the moments we could have done differently in order to have achieved a more favorable outcome?

We roll these little tidbits around in our head and allow them to poke holes in our self-esteem.

“You IDIOT! I can’t believe you said/did that!! WHAT is wrong with you?!?

Relationships ends, there will always be moments when you colossally put your foot in it, EVERYONE falls down.

It is not solely your fault, nor is it solely anyone else’s.

Simple but true.

Sometimes really good shit.

Sometimes really foul shit.

But it all happens for a reason.

You may not see that reason for days, weeks, or years down the road.

But one day you’ll remember that mortifying, shame inducing moment and realize – SHIT!

If that hadn’t happened neither would A which lead to B which brought you to today and the amazingly fabulous person you are.

So go easy on yourself girl!

Even if your heart’s broken, you royally fucked up at work, or you walked around all day with your skirt tucked into your tights – it’s NOT the end of the world.

Take it from Annie 🙂

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Begin the Healing

I can’t lie kids – the last seven days have been a little rough.

Suffice it to say Mr. Fix It can go fuck himself.

I honestly wasn’t sure what I was going to write about today.

Thankfully it seems like the peeps at Positive Thoughts are reading my diary.

Below is yesterday’s post:

When life as we know it comes crashing down around us, our hearts ache, our minds go numb, a haze seems to surround us. We are shocked, angry, and sad beyond anything we’ve ever felt before. We are frightened and shaken. We ask, “Why? How could this happen?” And often, we ask, “Why me? Why us? Why them?” Our faith is tested…and also our resolve. We might wonder if we will find the strength to go on…or if we even want to go on. It’s all so overwhelming. Here are 10 steps to help you move forward.

1.  Schedule quiet time.  Do what you have to do each day, but schedule at least 15 minutes of silence every day for a while. Take a walk alone before work, stop at noon for a bit of reflection, or meditate each evening before bed. Use the time to reflect, weep, pray, or just sit and be aware.

2.  Accept your feelings.  Don’t try to push them away. Healing begins with identifying our emotions…whatever they are. Fear, guilt, regret, anger, or sadness…accept them as they surface.

3.  Express your feelings.Write in a journal, pen a poem, sketch a drawing, or write a letter to a dear friend.

4.  Connect with people.  Be with family, friends, or church groups. Share your pain, and comfort each other. Talk to a counselor, if you wish, or a spiritual leader, but be open to the love and comfort available to you. Know that you are not alone.

5.  Create remembrances of what has been lost.  Hold a memorial service and ask close friends to share memories in a book. Assemble a photo scrapbook of someone lost, or a video collage of treasured moments. Frame a special note or a shared favorite quote. Perhaps you can find a small object (a ring, photo, or small piece of glass?) that will help you to feel connected. Keep it close to you and hold that love forever in your heart.

6.  Pass along the love.  One way to honor a life lost is to give others what meant so much to you…a tender touch, an understanding smile, a shoulder to lean on, or the boost of positive energy.

7.  Contribute what you can.  Donate to an appropriate cause, offer prayers of healing, volunteer your time, give blood, or support your local rescue workers.

8.  Be an emotional support.  Hold someone who is grieving. Listen generously. Tell your own story of this and past recovery so others will not feel alone.

9.  Commit acts of kindness.In your workplace leave anonymous notes of appreciation, offer to help someone who’s on a tight deadline, or simply bring in a breakfast treat. In your community, you might adopt a homeless pet, volunteer to deliver meals on wheels, or rake leaves for an elderly neighbor. Show more patience with everyone you meet.

10.  Live each day in meaningful ways.  Revisit what’s important to you, and then schedule it in. Make time for birthday parties and coffee with friends. Tell people what they mean to you. Stop to give thanks for all that you have. Use your gifts every day. Hug your children more…teenage or not!

And remember that we all heal in different ways and at differing speeds. Follow your heart. Take time to feel, take care of yourself, and take one step at a time.

Suzanne Zoglio, Ph.D.

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Don’t Be A Dick

I am sick and tired of hearing racist, bigoted rhetoric.

It doesn’t matter who you are; Mitt Romney, Dan Cathy, or just your run of the mill douchebag spewing hate from his local bar stool.

Mmmm, tastes like bigotry

Can we please all agree to stop??

Being gay isn’t contagious; you can NOT catch it by talking, hugging, or being nice to a gay person.

Gay parents do not turn children gay.

In fact, if Zach Walhs is any example of what you get when gay parents raise children, I’d say they do a damn good job!

Gay marriage will NOT destroy the sanctity of marriage.

Homosexuals are not evil people lying in wait to sexually abuse your children.

Jerry Sandusky is a convicted serial child molester who until recently was considered a pillar of the community.

Allowed to adopt, foster, and coach young children.

I don’t know about you, but I’d leave my hypothetical children with a cross-dressing drag queen over that piece of shit any day.

Assholes come in all shapes and sizes.

Being black doesn’t automatically make someone a drug dealing gang banger.

Puerto Ricans are not all lazy, jobless, no-goods living off the system.

Asians do not all know karate, excel at math, or drive like idiots.

I am continually shocked and appalled by the racist, bigoted comments people find appropriate and acceptable to say out loud and in public.

Before you judge someone take a long hard look in the mirror.

What makes you better than them??

This speech is from 1940 and it still resonates today.

Can we please agree to start acting like decent human beings?

Be kind to your fellow man (and woman).

Regardless of race, color, or sexual orientation treat ALL people with respect.

Don’t lie, cheat, or steal.

Mind your manners.

And can we PLEASE ban the following words from our human lexicon:

nigger, faggot, spic, chink, or ANY racial slur for that matter

Asshole covers bad behavior pretty well in my book. Why make it racial??

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