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Call Me, Maybe?

I was talking to my fabulous friend Amina the other day and she looked at me like I was bat.shit.crazy when I told her I frequently go a day or two without talking to anyone.

The fabulous Miss Amina and I

The fabulous Miss Amina and I aka Ebony & Ivory Divas 🙂

I’m notorious for taking “personal days” when I respond to no one and spend a day completely in my own company, ignoring the outside world.

Which she completely understands and occasionally does herself.

But she couldn’t understand that I would regularly go a whole day without texting or calling a friend or family member.

(Please note, she does NOT count Facebook, Twitter, or any other social media platform as acceptable substitutes for a text or phone call. As someone who works in marketing and uses most of these platforms daily, I strongly disagree, but will humor her for the sake of this post.)

Now, before you also think I’m some psychopathic introvert, let me explain.

Heeeeeere's Johnny!!

Heeeeeere’s Johnny!!

I talk to people every day. These interactions are usually at work, the gym, or the store. They aren’t always people I know personally. But I do talk to people!

I’ve never been a big phone talker.

When I was growing up we had one phone, in the kitchen, where everyone could hear you, so there was really no such thing as a private conversation.

As an adult, I worked for more years than I care to remember as a customer service rep and grew to despise speaking to anyone on the telephone.

That smiling face is a lie. Customer service is the worst.job.ever.

That smiling face is a lie. Customer service is the worst.job.ever.

And quite frankly, I don’t know if I’m going deaf in my old age or cell phone reception just sucks, but I feel like I can never quite hear anyone clearly when talking on the phone these days.

Rather than just “uh huh” and pretend I heard what was said (repeating myself is a huge pet peeve so I try my best not to make others do it) I’d rather just make plans to see you in person. It’s more fun that way anyway!

Her reaction did get me thinking though.

As I’m living alone again these days, if I disappeared, would anyone notice?

Thankfully I’m not a crazy cat lady (or a fan of cats period) so I’m not in any danger of dying and having my face eaten off.

Never, ever, ever!

Nevah, evah, evah!

But I think I might need to start interacting with my friends and family on a more regular basis and not just to make plans.

I don’t want to be that woman discovered dead after neighbors start complaining about a foul odor.

How about you guys?

Do you talk to someone every day?

Is it the same someone?

Do you call people just to say “hi”?

Would anyone notice if you disappeared for a couple days?

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

summer afternoon

Stuff and Things:

Every bride is beautiful on her wedding day. But not every bride knows how to take beautiful pictures. Here’s a how-to guide on posing for you lovelies. (Don’t worry single ladies – you don’t have to be getting married to take a peek!)

Climbing the Ladder:

Networking can be super awkward. Here are five tips to make it feel super easy.

Wine Me, Dine Me:

Did you know Greek yogurt can be substituted for almost anything?? Check out this chart from Chobani:

chobani

Body Lovin’:

For anyone who’s ever worked 2 jobs you know the power of naps. Turns out it’s actually an alternative sleep cycle.

huggingOut and About:

Stanley Park in Westfield, MA is one of my favorite places. And now you can do yoga in the park every Wednesday in July! For free! Well, they ask for a $5 donation to the park, but that’s still the cheapest yoga class I’ve ever taken!!

Friday Fun:

For my Connecticut peeps:

friday movie

The 22nd Annual Greater Hartford Festival of Jazz kicks off this weekend in Bushnell Park. Gates open at 5pm Friday night. The festival runs through Sunday. Admission is free.

For my Western Mass homies:

The 350 Grille in downtown Springfield is one of my favorite restaurants and it just so happens another of my favorites will be providing the melodious mood during tonight’s dining experience! That sounds like a win/win to me!! John Cantalini will delight your auditory senses on guitar while 350’s menu tickles your taste buds.

After you’ve had your full of deliciousness at 350 head on up to Monty’s in Chicopee for your favorite 90’s cover band Gnome Sane. You’ll definitely need to do some serious booty shakin’ to work off that dinner girl! Gnome sane?

Saturday Shenanigans:

There’s not much better than spending a summer afternoon on the lake. Unless it’s spending the afternoon on the lake listening to good tunes! Head out to Louie B’s in Southwick and catch the Baird Souls 6pm – 10pm.

Can’t take the heat even on the water?? Then head to The Still in Agawam for DPR. These guys are one of my faves and will definitely get you up and moving on the dance floor.

For you kids on the other side of the river, The Truckstop Troubadours will be rocking all your favorite country classics at the Munich Haus in Chicopee.

For my Connecticut peeps – Weird Science Saturday will be going on down at the Shamrock Cafe in Suffield. DJ Supercold will be spinning all your favorite 80’s tunes.

Giggles and Such:

We really blue it.

Careless whisper makes everything sexy.

doors

better days are coming

Have a great weekend!

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It Only Hurts If You Let It

I was talking (bitching) to my wicked smart Mom the other day.

All up on my high horse, pointing out the less-than-perfect behavior of another.

And she replied, “why let it bother you?”

I’ll admit, at first, I found her response extremely annoying.

“You’re supposed to be on my side!”

“Well screw you too!”

But, the more I thought about it, the more I realized she was right.

It’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong, how someone else isn’t doing the right thing, but ultimately you are the one who allows outside forces to effect your inner peace.

inner peace

This is NOT a free pass for bad behavior.

“Don’t be a dick” is a code I think everyone should follow.

But there will always be assholes walking the earth.

And you will more than likely have to interact with them on a regular basis.

You have choices in these situations.

life is all about choices

You can allow them to bring you down to their level and return that asshole behavior tit for tat.

While this may feel really good at the time, if you’re anything like me you will then spend the next week chastising yourself for allowing said asshole to elicit such a response from you. (You really are better than that!)

You can say/do nothing.

Take the high road and let your resentment fester and grow by continuously turning that nugget of assholery over and over in your head while complaining about said assholery to friends and family. (This will certainly give you agada. That’s indigestion for all you non-Italians.)

Or

You can accept the fact that sometimes people suck.

It’s not your job to make them suck less.

It’s not your job to point out their massive amount of suckiness (suckitude?).

All you can do is take a deep breathe, accept it, and move on.

acceptance

Because really – ain’t nobody got time for that!

And for all you know, someone did piss in their Cheerios and it’s not personal.

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It’s Finally Friday!!! (sort of)

Happy 4th of July!!

Just a reminder, while you’re enjoying cold beer and fireworks tomorrow, the brave folks protecting the freedoms we’re celebrating are probably humping a 200 lb rucksack through some god-forsaken-shithole, thousands of miles from cold beer, fireworks, and loved ones.

Quote of the Day:

not weird enough hunter s thompson quote

Wine Me, Dine Me:

By now we all know GMO food is bad for us. But did you know the top 10 worst GMO foods?? 2 of them surprised me!

Round the World:

A new crop of “wonders of the world” was released by UNESCO this week. How many make your bucket list??

Body Lovin’:

Overdid it at the gym?? 3 yoga poses for sore muscles.

Luscious Locks:

Wet hair at work is a no-no. Or is it??

Out and About:

Where to see fireworks in Western Mass this weekend.

Where to see fireworks in CT this weekend.

There’s no crying in baseball!!

Bushnell Park – Friday night

there's no crying in baseball

I know, I know!

“Where’s all the wicked awesome local music?!?”

I’ve got a four day weekend clouding my vision kids.

So I only have a few morsels of musical shenanigans for you this week.

Saturday – Tony Lee Thomas @ O’Laughlin’s in Pittsfield, MA

Sunday – The Kings @ The Wales Irish Pub in Wales, MA

I promise I’ll do better next week!

Giggles and Such:

Let me mustard up some courage!

In case of bad day, break glass.

The freedom to not give a fuck.

what happened

mosquitosHave a great week(end)!!

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

words are a powerful drug kipling quote

Inspirational:

I feel pretty, oh so pretty!

For all the women who have ever been creeped on, stared at, and inappropriately grabbed. You are worth more than that.

Climbing the Ladder:

Feeling a little insecure in your job?? Stop it! How to build confidence at work.

For the Kiddos:

Worried about the food you feed your little one?? Make your own GMO-free baby food.

Out and About:

Friday Fun:

“Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.” The city of Hartford puts on free movies after dark in parks around the city. Tonight is The Princess Bride is Elizabeth Park. Keep your fingers crossed the rain doesn’t ruin your chance to see this classic under the stars. Showing is 7pm – 11pm.

Looking to hear some acoustic tunes while enjoying a late dinner? Then check out Jeff King (of The Kings) and Anthony Drafft (of Steelhead) playing your favorites at La Cucina di Hampden House. Music starts at 7:30pm. Kitchen open til 10pm.

Hampden on the wrong side of the river for you?? Don’t worry The John Cantalini Band is playing at The Southwick Inn. If that name sounds familiar it’s because he’s the wicked awesome guitarist for The Kings. So get your ass down to The Inn and get ready to rock out!

Looking for a local dive to hang your hat for the evening? The Marks Brothers (featuring Mark Mercier of Max Creek) will be playing at The Ale House in Springfield tonight. Now Ale is my favorite dive, but, when I say dive ladies, I mean dive. The Ale House doesn’t take cards, so make sure to bring cash. Plenty of free, well-lit parking.

Saturday Shenanigans:

Tony Lee Thomas will be rocking the Crossroads Cafe out in Pittsfield, MA. If you’ve never seen Tony, he’s a special treat, featuring the lovely Miss Jenny Porter (a personal favorite of mine). Keep your ears open for Southern Girl (another personal favorite).

We have another great venue with awesome food! Gnome Sane (your new favorite 90’s band) will be playing all your favorites at The Tap Room in Wilbraham, MA starting at 9pm. Go early, get a table, and enjoy some good food and great music.

One of my favorites, Primate Fiasco will be playing those funky fresh tunes that just make you wanna dance up at Bishop’s Lounge in Northampton, MA starting 10pm.

For all my Connecticut peeps, you’re in for an extra special treat at The Downtown Cafe in Bristol. That’s right folks, Bristol’s known for more than producing NFL-playing murderers. They also have some amazing blues music courtesy of Bad Rooster!! These guys will blow you away. Lee-Ann Lovelace is the power house dynamo on vocals and my favorite Uncle keeps your feet moving to the beat on drums. Now don’t get it twisted! I wouldn’t lie to you, there’s no nepotism here at Adventures in Adulthood. So put on your dancing shoes and get your ass to the Downtown Cafe!! Show starts at 9:30pm, kitchen open til close.

Giggles and Such:

I love puns 🙂

Celebrities as normal people.

i don't even want a boyfriend girls quotehave a great daylet's get you home buddyHave a great weekend!

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Sharing Sucks

I hate to share.

I know I’m an “adult”.

We’re supposed to bask in the pure joy of giving to our fellow man.

Eff that.

I’ve always hated to share.

Maybe it’s because I’m the oldest and deep down I resent having to share my parents with my younger brother.

I don't wanna!

I don’t wanna!

Maybe I’m just a selfish asshole.

Whatever the reason, sharing sucks.

The only time I actually enjoy sharing is when it comes to food.

If I’m torn between two menu items and the person I’m with is willing to order both and split them, I’m happier than a fat kid with cake.

Nom Nom Nom

Nom Nom Nom

However, once we divvy up the loot, keep your fork on your own plate buddy!

And don’t even think of stealing a bite without asking!

Now I am willing to share, but I’m a control freak, so of course I have to be the one who picks what is shared.

God forbid you take my “perfect bite”.

(For those of you not obsessed with food this is the bite you save for last. It’s the perfect mix of the textures and flavors in a dish. The taste you want to remember the meal by.)

Stealing the “perfect bite” is a severe sharing transgression.

But, even I can admit, it’s just food.

The worst sharing transgressions are of course when you’re forced to share.

Sharing sucks!

That’s just turrible 😦

No one asks if you. It just happens.

My new position is with a smaller company than I’m used to.

There’s no “that’s not my job” going on, it’s quite nice most of the time.

But then there’s the time someone else does something you consider your responsibility.

The polite thing to do is say, “thank you”.

They’re waiting for you to say, “thank you”.

I really don’t want to say, “thank you”.

What I want to say is:

Why would you do that?? Nobody asked you to do that!?!

AARRRGGGGGHH!!!

AARRRGGGGGHH!!!

But I can’t.

I smile and say “thank you”.

Because I’m an adult and even though sharing sucks, I guess it sucks a little less when someone’s just trying to help out.

But, I’m warning you – keep your fork on your own plate!

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

wasted days

Wine Me, Dine Me:

Want to know what cheese goes with that wine?? Check out this cheat sheet!

Techie Love:

Ever had your Facebook or email hacked?? Never again!

Nature is Awesome:

I’m sure you’ve all heard the full moon on Sunday will be a super moon. Here’s what that means for you astrologically.

13 uses for cucumbers that will surprise and amaze you.

Out and About:

Music makes me happy.

It probably makes you happy too.

Supporting local music makes me wicked happy.

Here are some local events this weekend for your auditory pleasure:

Friday Fun:

If you ever went to a Radio 104 Fest, miss the 90’s at 9, and know Dave Grohl wasn’t always a lead singer, then these guys are your new favorite cover band!

Gnome Sane at The Waterfront in Holyoke, MA.

Saturday Shenanigans:

Do you love beer?

Do you love music??

Then get your ass down to Worthington Street from noon – 4pm for the 3rd Annual Worthy Craft Beer Showcase featuring the amazing reggae/hip hop/funk stylings of The Alchemystics (one of my personal favorites).

Got work/school/stuff going on Saturday afternoon??

Don’t worry your pretty little head girl!

Worthington Street will be bumping all night!

Primate Fiasco takes the stage at Theodore’s Blues & BBQ starting at 9pm.

Words can’t describe how amazing these guys are (I’m at a loss for words! That should tell you something!!).

They mix dixieland jazz with the funkiest funk.

They rage in the street! With a tuba! And a banjo!

Sunday Funday:

For those of you lucky bastards who don’t have work Monday morning, keep the party train rolling down at Foxwoods Casino with the spectacular Katelyn Richards at The Scorpion Bar.

This lovely lady always puts on a great show.

Rawking out commences at 7pm sharp!

Giggles and Such:

The devil came up to Boston.

The 48 most absurd things at the gym besides you.

exactly

upset woman

it's friday

Have a great weekend!

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