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My Armpits Hurt and Other Three-Legged Lessons

About a week ago, in the most mundane of circumstances, I dislocated my patella (that’s your knee cap for anyone who didn’t go to medical school) and tore my MCL (that’s the ligament that keeps your shin attached to your knee).

Since then I’ve learned quite a few things.

A few I already knew and had forgotten, others I wasn’t aware of yet.

Some things you learn when life (literally) knocks you down:

1.) Asking for help blows.

Maybe it’s because I don’t trust most people to come through for me or to do things the way I would (because of course my way is better).

Maybe it’s because I never want to burden anyone.

Whatever the reason, asking for help is right up there with being locked in a room full of cats, so I do everything in my power to avoid it.

asking for help

2.) I can NOT do everything myself.

However, there are an amazing number of things you can learn to do one-handed.

All the mommies out there know what I’m talking about!

one handed mom

How about practically everything?!?

Necessity is the mother of invention.

If you have to use at least one crutch to get around, you figure out real quick how to do everything else with your free hand.

3.) Who your friends are.

Not the friends you say “hi” to at shows or party all night with.

The friends who actually return phone calls, check in on you, and will cart your crippled ass around.

Don’t be surprised when the latter turns out to be a much smaller group than the former.true friends

4.) There is actually a technique to using crutches!

Up with the good, down with the bad is the best way to traverse stairs.

You should always use a solo crutch on your uninjured side.

If you lower your crutch height it will force you to use them correctly.

I only wish someone had told me before I rubbed my armpits raw!

This will of course, shift your weight to your hands, specifically the soft fleshy part of your thumbs.

I don’t know how to make that stop throbbing but I do know the next person who tells me I’ll build up a callus gets hit in the shin with a crutch.hit with a crutch5.) Listen to your body!

I can’t help but think of the nights when all I wanted was to stay home and curl up on the couch, but instead told myself I had to honor my commitments.

Maybe if I hadn’t pushed myself to go out just because it was a Friday Night and I could, my knee wouldn’t have revolted.

Maybe if I had taken better care of myself I wouldn’t now be on forced sabbatical…

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6.) If is physically impossible to vomit in a toilet with one leg in a brace.

Make sure you have a bucket handy.

The cocktail of drugs prescribed WILL make you nauseous.

7.) Listen to the doctor when they say:

“Eat lots of fruits and vegetables.

Make sure to drink plenty of water.”

You might think it isn’t possible to feel any worse.

Go a week without pooping and get back to me.

constipation8.) Pockets are your friend but a fanny pack is your BEST friend!

You’ll reach a point when you don’t give a shit.

You just want to be able to carry your own stuff.

Get a fanny pack and thank me later.

fanny pack

Also the only acceptable time to wear leggings as pants

9.) You WILL feel sorry for yourself.

Just go ahead and cry.

ugly cry face

I’m not guaranteeing it will make you feel any better but the headache you’ll get from holding back the tears will most certainly make you feel worse.

10.) PATIENCE

It is a virtue I was definitely born without and is the most challenging part of all.

It takes twice as long to do anything on crutches.

You will be at the mercy of others.

So, take a deep breathe and count your lucky stars this is only temporary.

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A Girl Always Needs Her Dad

I might be in my thirties, but if there’s anything I’ve learned in three decades, it’s that I’ll always need my Dad.

He’s also taught me some pretty great lessons over the years.

In honor of my old man’s birthday (November 1st for those of you who know him and want to wish him well) I’ve put together the top 15 lessons I learned from the best Dad a girl could ask for.

me and dad at the game

At Fenway with the best Dad a girl could ask for

1.) Take care of your car. I’m pretty bad at it, but I know I should check my oil, tire pressure, and miscellaneous fluids on a regular basis. It also couldn’t hurt to give the old girl a vacuum every once in awhile either.

2.) Family first. Friends come and go but your family is forever. Take care of them and they’ll take care of you right back.

Family :)

Our family 🙂

3.) A deep and unwavering love for ALL things musical. Of course he taught me to appreciate the classics but the man has the MOST eclectic taste in music. Pretty ironic considering he can’t hear for shit! Just kidding Dad 🙂

4.) Gratitude and appreciation. Every night at dinner, without fail, Dad proclaims to Mom, “This is the best thing I’ve had to eat all day!” It doesn’t matter if it’s fish sticks or filet mignon, he appreciates the hot meal she takes the time to make for him. Thank yous go much farther than you’d ever think.

5.) Hard work pays off. The man worked a rotating schedule and almost never had a weekend off for 20 years, but he retired at 50. I call that WINNING.

Retiring at the ripe old age of 50!

Retiring at the ripe old age of 50!

6.) Celebrate your victories. No matter how small you think a win is, take a moment and appreciate a job well done.

7.) A place for everything, and everything in it’s place. As kids, if we didn’t put our stuff away, it was likely to get thrown out. On the plus side, if you always put your shit away, you always know where it is.

8.) Paddling a boat around a lake brings a unique sense of accomplishment and peace of mind. It’s pretty hard to be anything but happy surrounded by calm waters and wilderness.

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Paddling around Emerald Lake 🙂

9.) Anything worth doing is worth doing well. Take pride in your work or no one else will.

10.) Be kind. It can mean the world and it costs you nothing. I’ve never seen my old man be rude to anyone. That includes people I’m pretty sure he can’t stand. Exclusion is for assholes. Being nice to people you don’t like doesn’t mean you’re fake, it means you’re mature enough to tolerate your dislike towards them.

11.) Bitching and moaning is a waste of time. If you can fix something, FIX IT! If not get over it already.

12.) Make some “me” time. Whatever it is you enjoy doing, make time for it. A hobby is a great way to blow off steam and challenge yourself.

The man's a 6 handicap. That doesn't happen by accident!

The man’s a 6 handicap. That doesn’t happen by accident!

13.) Find the funny. Trips home from the Cape usually included a stop at Friendly’s before the bridge. One time, as Dad went to put ketchup on his fries, when he shook the bottle, he (and the whole restaurant) discovered the cap wasn’t fully on. Ketchup sprayed EVERYWHERE! The first person to laugh was my old man. That always stuck with me, because really, if you can’t laugh at yourself, who can you laugh at?

14.) The value of a dollar. As kids we got paid to rake the acorns in our yard. Let me tell you with four oak trees back there, that’s a shit ton of acorns. All I had to do was look at the calluses on my palms to realize money was something you earned.

15.) Enjoy life. No one gets out alive so you might as well have some fun while you’re here.

That's the smile of a man who lives life to the fullest!

That’s the smile of a man who lives life to the fullest!

Happy Birthday Dad!! ILY

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May the Force be with You

I don’t like hearing “no”.

I know, I know, who does?!?

It’s not that I’ve never been told I couldn’t have what I want.

Trust me, that happens far more frequently than you’d think.

But, I was raised to believe, if you want something bad enough, you work your ass off to make it happen, and you don’t stop until you reach your goal.

good things

The trouble with that mindset is it doesn’t always work so well with people.

Most people, once they have their mind made up, are very hard to budge.

I’m not a closer.

I’d be terrible at sales.

I hear “no” and get so frustrated I don’t have another course of action.

I can’t see any solution to change that “no” to a “yes”.

Cajoling and pleading only work sometimes.

pretty please

And a pretty smile might open a few doors, but that’s about it.

I feel powerless when someone shuts me down.

Like I lost my ability to influence my world.

Like my choices are taken away.

It makes me wish for magical powers.

If only I could harness The Force!

use the force

I wouldn’t abuse my power.

The Jedi Mind Trick would only be employed during desperate situations.

Tragic stalemates where neither party can find a way out of the corners they’ve backed themselves into.

Maybe once or twice to see future lottery numbers or to mess with unassuming bystanders.

lotto ticket

How funny would it be to make someone’s table levitate and turn circles mid-meal at a restaurant??

That’s just good, clean fun!

Have you ever really changed someone’s mind?

Or did you just wear them down to the point where they’d agree to anything just to get you to shut up?

Do you think it’s even possible to change someone’s mind??

What magical power do you wish you had?!

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Pay it Forward

“It’s in our interest to take care of others. Self-centredness is opposed to basic human nature. In our own interest as human beings we need to pay attention to our inner values. Sometimes people think compassion is only of help to others, while we get no benefit. This is a mistake. When you concern yourself with others, you naturally develop a sense of self-confidence. To help others takes courage and inner strength.” ~Dalia Lama

I feel as though I’ve been particularly self-centered lately.

Several events transpired to form a perfect shit-storm; effectively stressing me to the breaking point and putting me in quite the tailspin for the past few weeks.

shit storm

Said events aren’t exactly settled.

But I’m beginning to remember I have a plethora of absolutely wonderful things in my life to be grateful for.

Any one of which, is enough on their own, to elicit enormous amounts of gratitude.

be thankful

But I have a habit of focusing on the things I don’t have, rather than those I do. (I want everything, all at once, right now!)

Over the weekend, I was reminded, no matter what I think is going horribly wrong or is irreparably damaged in my life, I still have it pretty damn good.

I was the recipient of a thousand (not actual number but there were far, far, far too many to count) acts of kindness.

Acts of kindness that went above and beyond any threshold of friendship.

Acts of kindness I will probably never get the chance to repay (even if repayment would be accepted).

act of kindness

The words to express how very grateful I am escape me and I cannot fathom how to even begin to reciprocate the kindness I was shown.

So I’m going to do the only thing I can think of to show the Universe, I do indeed know how blessed I am, even if sometimes I forget.

For the month of September I will be paying it forward.

pay it forward

At least once a day, but every chance I get, I will perform an act of kindness.

They might be random acts of kindness.

They might even be for some of you.

Every day for thirty days I will try to make someone else remember, they too are blessed. That even though not every day is good, there is good in every day.

every day

Maybe, if I remind enough other people, I’ll remember it myself the next time that shit-storm comes blowing through.

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It’s Finally Friday!!! (sort of…)

Quote of the Day:

optimist

Love + Sex:

Breaking up is hard to do.

Climbing the Ladder:

Not all “mistakes” are created equal.

Creative juices running low? Here are 4 articles and 6 TED talks to get your creativity flowing.

Body Lovin’:

Did you know baking soda can do almost anything??

For all you new mommas – the ultimate guide to organic formula.

Following Your Dreams:

Scratch that itch.

Out and About:

Thirsty Thursday:

Roomful of Blues will be rocking Stearns Square for Bike Night this week. Come soak up the end of summer. Music starts at 8pm.

If you love The Dead the Space Ballroom in Hampden, CT is the place to be. $12 at the door. Show starts at 9pm.

Friday Fun:

For my CT homies:

The Muppet Movie will be playing in Elizabeth Park in Hartford at 7pm.

Lucid will be at Stella Blues in New Haven. If you haven’t seen these guys yet you’re in for a treat! Lucid serves up a blend of funky, jazzy, reggae rock guaranteed to get you on your feet!

For my Western Mass peeps:

The John Cantalini Band will be rocking The Sky Box in Southwick.

Saturday Shenanigans:

Got the blues?? Rich Badowski Blues Band will be at The Waterfront in Holyoke.

Looking to get saved Saturday night? Reverend Dan and The Dirty Catechism CD Release Party is at The Elevens in Northampton, MA. Baptism starts at 8pm.

Feeling nostalgic for flannel and JNCO jeans?? Head out to the Southwick Inn to see your favorite 90’s cover band Gnome Sane.

Giggles and Such:

Drink to excess in Texas.

can't live without love

stupid

wine

Have a great week(end)!

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Grow A Pair

Life can be pretty fucking scary sometimes.

There are so many unknown variables.

Things that could go horribly wrong.

But things could also go amazingly right.

believe in miracles

It’s easy to decide something is too hard, that it couldn’t possibly work out and turn your back on the incredible opportunities life has to offer.

The trouble is, when you stop taking chances, decide that nothing ever turns out right, close yourself off from forming meaningful connections – you might as well be dead.

You become an empty shell, a walking/talking/breathing zombie.

zombie

Aimlessly living your life.

Accidentally bumping into whatever crosses your path. Never reaching out to hold on to anything or anyone.

Content in your assumption that while something or someone might make you happy for a moment it’s certain to end in disaster.

So you pull away.

You hide out in your empty shell. Every once in awhile giving it a new coat of shellac so no one notices how dull your eyes have become.

You miss out on the best that life has to offer.

You become a coward.

It’s not the end of the world though.

You don’t have to remain one.

there's still time to change the road your on

Grow a pair.

Take a chance.

The regrets of the dying aren’t the things they wish they didn’t do.

It’s the ones they wish they had.

Speaking of the dying, for those of us who have lost loved ones far too soon, we have a special obligation to live the fullest life possible.

An obligation to make sure we grab life in heaping handfuls.

Never forgetting what a precious gift we’ve been given.

one life

No one gets a do-over.

Second chances are finite.

Even if you believe in re-incarnation – you never get to live the same life twice.

So don’t squander it.

twenty years from now

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It’s Finally Friday!!! (sort of..)

Adventures in Adulthood is going on vacation!!

And not a minute too soon!

I need some serious fun in the sun in my life.

Don’t worry!

We’ll be back to our regularly scheduled programming August 21st.

If you miss us terribly, feel free to dig up some of your past faves from the archives and give ’em another read 🙂

Quote of the Day:

alice

Climbing the Ladder:

Just start a new gig?? Five tips to becoming the ideal co-worker.

Trying to get an introduction?? How to ask like a pro.

Techie Love:

Are you addicted to Facebook?? 16 reasons to sign off and go live your life!!

Wine Me, Dine Me:

Think cooking is hard?? Learn to cook in 90 seconds!

Round the World:

Is there a road trip in your summer plans?? How to stay healthy while on the road and 10 free apps that will make for smooth sailing.

Inspirational:

Growing up is hard to do and anyone who tells you there’s a point when you stop growing is full of baloney. Here are 7 signs you’re on the road to becoming a better person.

Body Lovin’:

Forgot you couldn’t party like a college student anymore?? Don’t worry, you’re not actually dying, it just feels that way. Try these yoga poses to take the edge off that hangover.

Out and About:

Sick of hearing that whiny, “I’m bored”?? Pack those brats in the car and head to Old Sturbridge Village. Kids 17 and under get free admission for the month of August.

Thirsty Thursday

The Truckstop Troubadours will be headlining Stearns Square tomorrow night. For those of you who have been living under rocks in Western Mass., Springfield puts on a concert each Thursday during the summer, otherwise known as “Bike Night”. The outdoor concert usually starts around 8pm. The Troubadours will also be playing down the street at Theodore’s once the outdoor show is over.

Friday Fun:

For my Connecticut homies:

Goonies never say die! Really wish I was going to be in town for this one!! The Goonies at Goodwin Park. Free popcorn provided by Stew Leonards (the best grocery store EVER), face painting, and a Truffle Shuffle competition! I repeat, a Truffle Shuffle competition!!

For my Western Mass peeps:

Wayne Morphew & The Glorious Unknown will be rocking out at Theodore’s. If you haven’t checked these guys out yet you won’t be disappointed!!

Saturday Shenanigans:

Need an excuse to head down to the beach this weekend?? Baird Souls will be rocking the Windjammer down in Misquamicut. And everyone knows it’s not really summer until you party on the beach! So throw on your cutest suit and boogie on down.

Another shindig I really wish I was going to be around for 😦 Tony Lee Thomas (featuring one of my absolute favorites – the lovely Miss Jenny Porter) will be at Bishop’s Lounge in Northampton. I also hear there will be a smorgasbord of super talented musicians collaborating to kick the evening off. Don’t miss this one kids!! Show starts at 10pm.

Giggles and Such:

Ever had your palm read? Learn the basics and impress your friends!

Things millennial girls love.

cool-Netflix-guide-what-watch

hoot

internet

Have a great week(end)!

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