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It Only Hurts If You Let It

I was talking (bitching) to my wicked smart Mom the other day.

All up on my high horse, pointing out the less-than-perfect behavior of another.

And she replied, “why let it bother you?”

I’ll admit, at first, I found her response extremely annoying.

“You’re supposed to be on my side!”

“Well screw you too!”

But, the more I thought about it, the more I realized she was right.

It’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong, how someone else isn’t doing the right thing, but ultimately you are the one who allows outside forces to effect your inner peace.

inner peace

This is NOT a free pass for bad behavior.

“Don’t be a dick” is a code I think everyone should follow.

But there will always be assholes walking the earth.

And you will more than likely have to interact with them on a regular basis.

You have choices in these situations.

life is all about choices

You can allow them to bring you down to their level and return that asshole behavior tit for tat.

While this may feel really good at the time, if you’re anything like me you will then spend the next week chastising yourself for allowing said asshole to elicit such a response from you. (You really are better than that!)

You can say/do nothing.

Take the high road and let your resentment fester and grow by continuously turning that nugget of assholery over and over in your head while complaining about said assholery to friends and family. (This will certainly give you agada. That’s indigestion for all you non-Italians.)

Or

You can accept the fact that sometimes people suck.

It’s not your job to make them suck less.

It’s not your job to point out their massive amount of suckiness (suckitude?).

All you can do is take a deep breathe, accept it, and move on.

acceptance

Because really – ain’t nobody got time for that!

And for all you know, someone did piss in their Cheerios and it’s not personal.

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

words are a powerful drug kipling quote

Inspirational:

I feel pretty, oh so pretty!

For all the women who have ever been creeped on, stared at, and inappropriately grabbed. You are worth more than that.

Climbing the Ladder:

Feeling a little insecure in your job?? Stop it! How to build confidence at work.

For the Kiddos:

Worried about the food you feed your little one?? Make your own GMO-free baby food.

Out and About:

Friday Fun:

“Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.” The city of Hartford puts on free movies after dark in parks around the city. Tonight is The Princess Bride is Elizabeth Park. Keep your fingers crossed the rain doesn’t ruin your chance to see this classic under the stars. Showing is 7pm – 11pm.

Looking to hear some acoustic tunes while enjoying a late dinner? Then check out Jeff King (of The Kings) and Anthony Drafft (of Steelhead) playing your favorites at La Cucina di Hampden House. Music starts at 7:30pm. Kitchen open til 10pm.

Hampden on the wrong side of the river for you?? Don’t worry The John Cantalini Band is playing at The Southwick Inn. If that name sounds familiar it’s because he’s the wicked awesome guitarist for The Kings. So get your ass down to The Inn and get ready to rock out!

Looking for a local dive to hang your hat for the evening? The Marks Brothers (featuring Mark Mercier of Max Creek) will be playing at The Ale House in Springfield tonight. Now Ale is my favorite dive, but, when I say dive ladies, I mean dive. The Ale House doesn’t take cards, so make sure to bring cash. Plenty of free, well-lit parking.

Saturday Shenanigans:

Tony Lee Thomas will be rocking the Crossroads Cafe out in Pittsfield, MA. If you’ve never seen Tony, he’s a special treat, featuring the lovely Miss Jenny Porter (a personal favorite of mine). Keep your ears open for Southern Girl (another personal favorite).

We have another great venue with awesome food! Gnome Sane (your new favorite 90’s band) will be playing all your favorites at The Tap Room in Wilbraham, MA starting at 9pm. Go early, get a table, and enjoy some good food and great music.

One of my favorites, Primate Fiasco will be playing those funky fresh tunes that just make you wanna dance up at Bishop’s Lounge in Northampton, MA starting 10pm.

For all my Connecticut peeps, you’re in for an extra special treat at The Downtown Cafe in Bristol. That’s right folks, Bristol’s known for more than producing NFL-playing murderers. They also have some amazing blues music courtesy of Bad Rooster!! These guys will blow you away. Lee-Ann Lovelace is the power house dynamo on vocals and my favorite Uncle keeps your feet moving to the beat on drums. Now don’t get it twisted! I wouldn’t lie to you, there’s no nepotism here at Adventures in Adulthood. So put on your dancing shoes and get your ass to the Downtown Cafe!! Show starts at 9:30pm, kitchen open til close.

Giggles and Such:

I love puns 🙂

Celebrities as normal people.

i don't even want a boyfriend girls quotehave a great daylet's get you home buddyHave a great weekend!

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Lay Off! I’m Starving!!

I generally try to eat healthy and exercise regularly.

Not just for appearances sake, but so I can live a long and healthy life.

Though sometimes it’s all about appearances.

This usually starts around April/May, depending how long Old Man Winter hangs around New England.

 It’s the time of year most of us drag our pale, lumpy asses to the gym.

You also start choosing salads over burgers and carbs become a dirty word.

This is also the time of year most women become just a teensy bit sensitive.

LAY OFF!!

We’re starving!

That’s right folks!

It’s swimsuit season.

As most of you ladies know – it SUCKS!!

GIANT, HAIRY MONKEY BALLS!!

Kind of like these but bigger and hairier

Kind of like these but bigger and hairier!

Trying on bathing suits should come with complimentary Xanax.

No matter what size, shape, or color you come in, it’s a traumatic experience.

You peruse the racks, find some cute suits, take them back to the dressing room, put on the bottoms, (ignoring how unsanitary this is even with your underwear on), look in the mirror, and burst into tears.

cathy trying on bathing suit

ACK!!

You then try to take off the offending garment while shielding your pale, lumpy ass from what is clearly one of those fun house distortion mirrors, lose your balance, fall over, and cause such a ruckus that the sales clerk comes back to check on you.

The only way this scenario gets more embarrassing, is if you happen to be in a dressing room with that flimsy curtain some sadist decided was a door.

Kind of like this but more awkward and half-naked.

Kind of like this but more awkward and half-naked.

If you should try to by-pass this horrific experience by shopping online, you’re just setting yourself up for deep, soul-crushing disappointment.

When the suit that was supposed to “smooth problem areas!” and offer “full coverage bottoms” arrives, it will do absolutely NONE of those things, and you will most certainly NOT look like the “real woman” model from the website.

Seriously?!? Can celebrities and models start looking like "real" people again?!?

Seriously?!? Can celebrities and models start looking like “real” people again?!?

In fact, the sight of your pale, lumpy ass hanging out of those “full coverage bottoms” will be enough to send you diving under the covers to hide your hideous body from the world until the temperature drops low enough to wear a full-body sweatsuit.

It’s really an exhausting experience.

Ain’t nobody got time for that!

So this year, I’m thinking we just skip all that nonsense.

As long as all your bits are covered, I say put on your suit, go to the beach, and flaunt what your momma gave you!

What do you think ladies??

human shaped

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Cranky Pants Give Me a Wedgie

“I am a strong, beautiful woman that is never static but always growing and learning each and every day.”

This popped up in my news feed the other night, courtesy of the most delightful and light-filled souls I’ve had the pleasure of meeting.

I’d been having the kind of day when you just want to burn it to the ground, get in the car, and drive west.

cranky pants

In other words, I felt like this. Wearing some serious cranky pants with the world’s most painful wedgie!

In fact, the post I was working on (avoiding writing while trolling FB) was about how even though I’m starting a new stage of my career, I’m having trouble feeling grateful. I’ve been stuck in this loop – dwelling on the areas of my life that I feel are lacking – poor me, blah, blah, blah.

And then BAM!

“I am a strong, beautiful woman that is never static but always growing and learning each and every day.”

The things I wish were different in my life aren’t permanent.

I haven’t died.

There is still time for me to learn from my choices and make better ones.

I only have to stay stuck for as long as I make myself.

there's still time to change the road your on

Those 13 words didn’t magically change situations to suite my desires, but they reminded me the only thing that is certain to happen in life is change.

It is up to me how I choose to handle that change, whether I stomp my feet and pout, or learn from the experience, and allow it to help me grow as a person.

happinessThis to shall pass.

It’s a nice reminder on bad days – that there’s an inevitable end.

Good days are different – you want those to last forever – so don’t forget to appreciate them 🙂

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

i believe in miracles

Climbing the Ladder:

10 things really amazing employees do.

10 things really amazing bosses do.

Feed Your Mind:

65 books you should read in your 20’s.

How Does Your Garden Grow:

35 tips and tricks to keep disease and pests out of your garden.

Wine Me, Dine Me:

How to pick and cut the perfect melon.

Cook juicy, delicious, boneless, skinless chicken breasts every time!

Nesting:

Keep your home pest free.

Giggles and Such:

You might just be a bitch

Do you guys know you’re letting me use nice things?

addicted to reading

could give two fucks

barefoot

Have a great weekend!

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It’s Finally Friday!!! (sort of)

This weekend is the official start of summer! Yayy!! Adventures in Adulthood is taking some much needed time off and skipping straight to Friday this week. Don’t worry we’ll be back to our regularly scheduled programming next week 🙂

Quote of the Day:

fear is stupid

Climbing the Ladder:

Networking sucks. Treating networking like any other friendship can help! And who doesn’t want to make their friends feel smart and insightful?!

DIY:

Does your place have super annoying bi-fold doors?? Turn them into some fancy french doors for next to nothing!

Not just for kids! Super bubbles!!

Round the World:

How absolutely amazing would these trips be?!?

children's book guide to travel

Inspirational:

Life is about choices.

Wine Me, Dine Me:

For those of you who are lactards like me, finally an ice cream you can indulge in! (Also Paleo!)

Fake sugar will rot your insides. How to make your own stevia extract.

Giggles and Such:

Working out at home never works out…

I just lost my grain of thought!

me

da fever

Have a great weekend and Happy Memorial Day!!

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