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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

words are a powerful drug kipling quote

Inspirational:

I feel pretty, oh so pretty!

For all the women who have ever been creeped on, stared at, and inappropriately grabbed. You are worth more than that.

Climbing the Ladder:

Feeling a little insecure in your job?? Stop it! How to build confidence at work.

For the Kiddos:

Worried about the food you feed your little one?? Make your own GMO-free baby food.

Out and About:

Friday Fun:

“Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.” The city of Hartford puts on free movies after dark in parks around the city. Tonight is The Princess Bride is Elizabeth Park. Keep your fingers crossed the rain doesn’t ruin your chance to see this classic under the stars. Showing is 7pm – 11pm.

Looking to hear some acoustic tunes while enjoying a late dinner? Then check out Jeff King (of The Kings) and Anthony Drafft (of Steelhead) playing your favorites at La Cucina di Hampden House. Music starts at 7:30pm. Kitchen open til 10pm.

Hampden on the wrong side of the river for you?? Don’t worry The John Cantalini Band is playing at The Southwick Inn. If that name sounds familiar it’s because he’s the wicked awesome guitarist for The Kings. So get your ass down to The Inn and get ready to rock out!

Looking for a local dive to hang your hat for the evening? The Marks Brothers (featuring Mark Mercier of Max Creek) will be playing at The Ale House in Springfield tonight. Now Ale is my favorite dive, but, when I say dive ladies, I mean dive. The Ale House doesn’t take cards, so make sure to bring cash. Plenty of free, well-lit parking.

Saturday Shenanigans:

Tony Lee Thomas will be rocking the Crossroads Cafe out in Pittsfield, MA. If you’ve never seen Tony, he’s a special treat, featuring the lovely Miss Jenny Porter (a personal favorite of mine). Keep your ears open for Southern Girl (another personal favorite).

We have another great venue with awesome food! Gnome Sane (your new favorite 90’s band) will be playing all your favorites at The Tap Room in Wilbraham, MA starting at 9pm. Go early, get a table, and enjoy some good food and great music.

One of my favorites, Primate Fiasco will be playing those funky fresh tunes that just make you wanna dance up at Bishop’s Lounge in Northampton, MA starting 10pm.

For all my Connecticut peeps, you’re in for an extra special treat at The Downtown Cafe in Bristol. That’s right folks, Bristol’s known for more than producing NFL-playing murderers. They also have some amazing blues music courtesy of Bad Rooster!! These guys will blow you away. Lee-Ann Lovelace is the power house dynamo on vocals and my favorite Uncle keeps your feet moving to the beat on drums. Now don’t get it twisted! I wouldn’t lie to you, there’s no nepotism here at Adventures in Adulthood. So put on your dancing shoes and get your ass to the Downtown Cafe!! Show starts at 9:30pm, kitchen open til close.

Giggles and Such:

I love puns 🙂

Celebrities as normal people.

i don't even want a boyfriend girls quotehave a great daylet's get you home buddyHave a great weekend!

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Nothin’ but a Number?

Have you ever dated someone significantly older or younger than you?

I used to rag on my guy friends for constantly robbing the cradle.

If your girl can’t go to the bar with us – she’s too young!

But what about when you’re past legal drinking age, does it still matter?

I dated a younger man once. He was 22, I was 27.

me and rich

Me and my “snack pack”

The most significant difference had to do with our music choices.

In his defense, he did like good music, I’m just a sucker for the classics.

He would jokingly call me his cougar.

Which I found more adorable than annoying – most of the time.

It’s  expected for the man to be the elder in a May/December romance.

Gross, but socially acceptable.

Gross, but socially acceptable.

But when it’s the woman she’s looked at as some sort of desperate predator.

What does May/December even mean??

Technically that’s just six months!!

mariah and nick 2

A decade apart. Does that make him really mature or her seriously immature??

Five years isn’t that bad of an age difference – we still had a similar world view.

And we were also in the same place.

Neither of us was really looking to settle down.

But what about a ten year age difference? Or more??

No matter who’s older, ten plus years is a whole lot of difference.

He probably can't get it up but I bet you have to change his diaper.

He probably couldn’t get it up but I bet she had to change his diaper.

Having sexual relations with a wrinkly, old man sounds gross enough.

But if you hitch your star to an older wagon, you’ll probably have to change his diaper or help him use the bathroom at some point in the not so distant future.

That’s definitely where I draw the line!

adult diaper thong

The opposite of sexy!

Your life experiences are different as well.

Twenty-somethings haven’t really thought about having children, except how to prevent them.

But thirty-somethings have more than likely thought about it and come to a definitive answer.

And then there are those who are past their prime, can’t get it up without pills, but could still father a child who will graduate high school when they’re eighty.

Excuse me while I go vomit…Belch!

Who wants to chase after a toddler at 90?!?

Who wants to chase after a toddler at 90?!?

If you get along, want the same things, and genuinely care about one another – does age matter?

What do you guys think?

Would you date someone significantly older or younger than you??

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Goldilocks Had It Easy

The absolute worst thing to say to someone who is single:

“Why don’t you have a boyfriend/girlfriend??

You’re so pretty/handsome/smart!

I don’t understand??”

The worst part about this question is there’s no acceptable “real” answer.

No one really wants to know.

Which makes this an even ruder invasion of privacy.

Like Goldilocks, I’m still trying to find the one that’s juuust right.

goldilocks

Lucky bitch only had to slog through three options!

Usually when asked I just say, “I haven’t found the right one yet.”

(A true yet vague statement)

However, since I’m a little bit of an asshole, what I really want to say is:

You know why I’m single??

My last foray into dating ended abruptly, when I was informed via email, that he needed to figure out how to be “happy” by himself before he could be happy with someone else.

(This was coincidentally, after I refused to sleep with him on our second date)

personal challenge

Or how about the last guy I was foolish enough to catch feelings for?!

At first I thought he actually cared about me but, it turned out he was just a man-whore looking to get laid while keeping every.option.open.

(That really made me feel like I was special)

you look like a bad decision

The one before that, I only went out with a few times (Thank God!) when I found out from a fellow bartender he’d been dating another girl for the last 4 months.

And then there was the guy before that, he told me he loved me and proceeded to cheat on me with his stripper ex-girlfriend.

That’s right – I said:

stripper

ex

girlfriend

That about sums it up.

I either have a douchebag magnet implanted somewhere on my person or colossally bad taste in men.

douchebag magnet

I’m going with six of one, half dozen of the other.

So if it’s okay with you, I’m taking a little break from dating for awhile.

It’s been a rough year.

Do you have any other intrusive, super personal questions you’d like to ask me?

I didn’t think so…

Other things to never say to your single friends.

On behalf of singles everywhere, we thank you for your cooperation 🙂

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

lead nowhere

Inspirational:

The best time to do anything.

Shake off that bad mood.

Climbing the Ladder:

Writing cover letters sucks. Make your cover letter suck less.

Looking for Love:

Would you sign a marriage contract??

Nesting DIY:

Upgrade those dingy plastic blinds that came with your apartment.

Wine Me, Dine Me:

Bananas+Chocolate=LOVE

Body Lovin:

that ass

Giggles and Such:

Bread bowl gives you wings!

bananas

sun shines out your bum

crop circles

Have a great weekend!

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

kindness and mischief mary oliver quote

Health and Wellness:

When’s the last time you scheduled a little “me” time?

Wednesday was National Walking Day. Did you miss it?? 5 reasons you should go for a walk today!

Climbing the Ladder:

10 things to do every workday.

Round the World:

What’s better than vacationing in a tropical local?? Vacationing in a treetop hotel in a tropical local!!

Nurture Nature:

How to spot Saturn in the sky.

Looking for Love:

I don’t need a man to bring my sexy back.

Wine me, Dine me:

Delish for breakfast, better for dinner.

Inspirational:

Practice kindness, acceptance and joy.

DIY:

Summer is coming. Make your own maxi skirts.

Giggles and Such:

If these pooches don’t make you giggle you might be dead inside.

sit on a beach all daymelon collieruin your day

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

hunter s thompson quote

Wine me, Dine me:

This smoothie is packed with foods your brain will love.

Inspirational:

The only three questions that matter.

Out on the Town:

You and your love strapped for cash? Check out 70 cheap or free date ideas.

Body Lovin’:

Get your arms ready for all those sexy summer styles.

Health and Wellness:

Have you ever tried reflexology? Check out this guide on how to give the perfect foot massage.

Climbing the Ladder:

Do you have a life after work?

Giggles and Such:

going home to soakrunlive every day

Have a great weekend!

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Wicked Hard and Extremely Fragile

I’m not a trusting person.

Call me paranoid but I don’t take anyone’s word for it.

It’s especially hard, after someone you want to trust, has broken that bond.

How are you supposed to take that leap again?

take a leap of faith

There is no magic pill to take to guarantee a clean slate.

Old fears creep in and the most innocent of exchanges can feel like a plot against your happiness.

How can you truly trust if you haven’t figured out how to forgive?

forgiveness mark twain quoteAnd I’m not just talking about forgiving others.

I don’t know about you, but when my trust is broken, the person I blame the most is myself.

I should have known better!

not good enough

How could I have been so stupid??

Why couldn’t I tell he/she was lying?

Trust is such a vulnerable bond.

Even when you have the courage to open your heart and trust.

courage does not always roar

There are so many obstacles, so many worries that can gnaw on your mind.

The fears and anxieties pick with vicious tenacity at your fragile trust until it has been shredded. Completely destroyed, only the fears and anxieties remaining.

fear

Stop the fear!

The fears and anxieties cannot win if you fill your heart and mind with love.

As part of my Happiness Project I am making a conscious effort to be more trusting. To chose love over fear.

(For those of you who missed those posts – shame on you! Just kidding 🙂 You can check them out here and here.)

This is especially hard for me.

I have an overwhelming need to always be prepared (thank you Girl Scouts) and what may be the world’s most over-active imagination.

When these super powers combine they make me:

The Queen of the Worst.Case.Scenario.

You might be thinking, ‘well that doesn’t sound too bad.’

The problem lies in the thoughts.

all that we are budda quote

If our reality is a manifestation of our thoughts, then being worried, anxious, and distrusting will just bring you more of the same.

And who wants that??

What about you guys?

Do you trust easily?

Or is trusting someone the hardest.thing.ever for you??

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