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It’s Finally Friday!!! (sort of…)

Quote of the Day:

optimist

Love + Sex:

Breaking up is hard to do.

Climbing the Ladder:

Not all “mistakes” are created equal.

Creative juices running low? Here are 4 articles and 6 TED talks to get your creativity flowing.

Body Lovin’:

Did you know baking soda can do almost anything??

For all you new mommas – the ultimate guide to organic formula.

Following Your Dreams:

Scratch that itch.

Out and About:

Thirsty Thursday:

Roomful of Blues will be rocking Stearns Square for Bike Night this week. Come soak up the end of summer. Music starts at 8pm.

If you love The Dead the Space Ballroom in Hampden, CT is the place to be. $12 at the door. Show starts at 9pm.

Friday Fun:

For my CT homies:

The Muppet Movie will be playing in Elizabeth Park in Hartford at 7pm.

Lucid will be at Stella Blues in New Haven. If you haven’t seen these guys yet you’re in for a treat! Lucid serves up a blend of funky, jazzy, reggae rock guaranteed to get you on your feet!

For my Western Mass peeps:

The John Cantalini Band will be rocking The Sky Box in Southwick.

Saturday Shenanigans:

Got the blues?? Rich Badowski Blues Band will be at The Waterfront in Holyoke.

Looking to get saved Saturday night? Reverend Dan and The Dirty Catechism CD Release Party is at The Elevens in Northampton, MA. Baptism starts at 8pm.

Feeling nostalgic for flannel and JNCO jeans?? Head out to the Southwick Inn to see your favorite 90’s cover band Gnome Sane.

Giggles and Such:

Drink to excess in Texas.

can't live without love

stupid

wine

Have a great week(end)!

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

Alice in Wonderland quote

How Does Your Garden Grow:

If you use as much garlic as I do this will save you tons of money!

Fitness First:

10 minutes to better abs.

Techie Love:

Every wish you could do something with all those amazing pics you have on Instagram?? Now you can! Turn them into magnets!!

Wine Me, Dine Me:

Looking for a healthy breakfast you can eat on the go?? Try this super easy and wicked healthy cookies.

Health and Wellness:

We all know mediation is good for you. But it can be really hard to get started. Check out these 5 different practices and find one that works for you!

One hour a week could change your life.

Be True, Be You:

25 things you don’t have to justify to anyone.

Giggles and Such:

Take a seat. Make a friend.

It’s all about sex baby.

gimme some sugar baby

booksfanta seaHave a great weekend!

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But we can still be friends…

Have you ever stayed friends with an ex?

It sounds like a great idea until someone’s feelings get hurt AGAIN and then it gets awkward and ugly.

There’s no easy transition from “I’m in love with you” to “let’s be buddies”.

I have actually remained friends with quite a few of my exes.

What can I say? Like my Mom, I have a hard time throwing some things out.

For those of you who don’t know, she’s a border-line hoarder. ILYM 🙂

This ONLY works successfully if you STOP SLEEPING TOGETHER.

I know this part might be really hard for some of you.

So here are some pointers on NOT being an emotional whorebag:

  • Do NOT get drunk with your ex.

Not alone, not at a party, not in ANY place where you can achieve penetration.

Which when you think about it, is pretty much anywhere.

So dude, DON’T GET DRUNK WITH YOUR EX.

DON’T DO THIS!

  • Give it some time man!

You have either broken someone’s heart or had your heart broken.

Grieve! Cry! Break shit!

Do NOT pretend everything is sunshine and roses.

It’s not!

You’re allowed to admit that and take some time

Or allow your ex to do the same.

This actually makes you an adult. Just make sure your break-down is done in private and STAY OFF FACEBOOK!

  • During your time out:

DO NOT CALL THEM

DO NOT TEXT THEM

LEAVE THEM THE FUCK ALONE

If you have to; write their number down, put it somewhere safe, and delete it!

It’s never easy at first, no matter where you fall on the broken-hearted scale.

But it’s always a lot easier, IF YOU STOP SLEEPING TOGETHER!

And dude, seriously, delete that fucking number!!

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Begin the Healing

I can’t lie kids – the last seven days have been a little rough.

Suffice it to say Mr. Fix It can go fuck himself.

I honestly wasn’t sure what I was going to write about today.

Thankfully it seems like the peeps at Positive Thoughts are reading my diary.

Below is yesterday’s post:

When life as we know it comes crashing down around us, our hearts ache, our minds go numb, a haze seems to surround us. We are shocked, angry, and sad beyond anything we’ve ever felt before. We are frightened and shaken. We ask, “Why? How could this happen?” And often, we ask, “Why me? Why us? Why them?” Our faith is tested…and also our resolve. We might wonder if we will find the strength to go on…or if we even want to go on. It’s all so overwhelming. Here are 10 steps to help you move forward.

1.  Schedule quiet time.  Do what you have to do each day, but schedule at least 15 minutes of silence every day for a while. Take a walk alone before work, stop at noon for a bit of reflection, or meditate each evening before bed. Use the time to reflect, weep, pray, or just sit and be aware.

2.  Accept your feelings.  Don’t try to push them away. Healing begins with identifying our emotions…whatever they are. Fear, guilt, regret, anger, or sadness…accept them as they surface.

3.  Express your feelings.Write in a journal, pen a poem, sketch a drawing, or write a letter to a dear friend.

4.  Connect with people.  Be with family, friends, or church groups. Share your pain, and comfort each other. Talk to a counselor, if you wish, or a spiritual leader, but be open to the love and comfort available to you. Know that you are not alone.

5.  Create remembrances of what has been lost.  Hold a memorial service and ask close friends to share memories in a book. Assemble a photo scrapbook of someone lost, or a video collage of treasured moments. Frame a special note or a shared favorite quote. Perhaps you can find a small object (a ring, photo, or small piece of glass?) that will help you to feel connected. Keep it close to you and hold that love forever in your heart.

6.  Pass along the love.  One way to honor a life lost is to give others what meant so much to you…a tender touch, an understanding smile, a shoulder to lean on, or the boost of positive energy.

7.  Contribute what you can.  Donate to an appropriate cause, offer prayers of healing, volunteer your time, give blood, or support your local rescue workers.

8.  Be an emotional support.  Hold someone who is grieving. Listen generously. Tell your own story of this and past recovery so others will not feel alone.

9.  Commit acts of kindness.In your workplace leave anonymous notes of appreciation, offer to help someone who’s on a tight deadline, or simply bring in a breakfast treat. In your community, you might adopt a homeless pet, volunteer to deliver meals on wheels, or rake leaves for an elderly neighbor. Show more patience with everyone you meet.

10.  Live each day in meaningful ways.  Revisit what’s important to you, and then schedule it in. Make time for birthday parties and coffee with friends. Tell people what they mean to you. Stop to give thanks for all that you have. Use your gifts every day. Hug your children more…teenage or not!

And remember that we all heal in different ways and at differing speeds. Follow your heart. Take time to feel, take care of yourself, and take one step at a time.

Suzanne Zoglio, Ph.D.

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