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Pull yourself together girl!

Shit happens.

Feelings get hurt in both our personal and professional lives.

Constructive criticisms can cut deep, but as far as I’m concerned, lock it down and take it to the bathroom.

It is tough enough to be a successful woman without being labeled an “emotional” woman.

I can’t lie, I’ve cried at work.

Once was even while sitting in my boss’s office.

In my defense, I was informing him I was taking a leave of absence due to my father’s recent cancer diagnosis.

In his defense, he was the perfect boss and gentlemen, quietly handing me tissues and allowing me to get through that difficult announcement uninterrupted.

It may have helped that he managed a team of all women, was married, and had two daughters at home.

That man definitely spoke hysterical female.

(Btw Dad made a full recovery and is totally fine with the exception of a recent diagnosis of dumbass-itis for starting smoking again.)

The only other time I fell apart in the office, I was lucky enough to work with a good friend, who immediately pulled me into the ladies room and told me to get it together. (Thanks, Amina!)

Me and my super awesome girl Amina 🙂

There have certainly been other times when I felt the pin prick of emotions behind my eyelids while on the job, but I’ve always managed to bully myself back from the edge.

Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO, admits to crying at work and is an advocate for being your “real self” in the office.

It’s easy to be your “real” self when you’re at the C-level

I completely agree with being your true self at work (pretending to be someone you’re not will just lead to stress and misery).

But as young women can we really be taken seriously if we respond to work challenges with water works?

It’s one thing to share your emotions at work as a seasoned and established contributor but what about when you’re first starting out?

Have you ever cried at work?

Was it in front of a superior?

How did you handle it?

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I have an office!!

A real, honest-to-god office equipped with its very own door AND window. Yes, said window overlooks the central air ventilation system for the building but I’m willing to over look that.

I’ll take it!

In ten years of professional work experience I’ve never had my own office. I’m well versed in the joys of cubicle living and I’ve even shared an office with four women (that wasn’t the most passive aggressive work space at all…). So this whole close the door and rock out at work experience is new to me.

While talking to my friend Lindsey the other day (sorry to throw you under the bus girl!) I recently discovered what may be the single most super awesome perk of having your own office…FARTING! Seriously, think about it, how many times have you been sitting in your cubicle and needed to let one go?? Having your own office means never having to worry about offending your office mates’ olfactory senses! So go ahead, eat that extra piece of cheese, girl! You’re the only one who’ll have to suffer the consequences.

Do you have an office? What’s your favorite perk to having your own office?

Me in my office. Yayy!

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That piece of paper costs how much?!?

These days job markets are tight across every industry. Employers want qualified candidates who will work for pennies. As someone who has recently changed industries, the phrase “salary commiserate with experience” brings tears to my eyes. I have tons of experience! Just not the kind they’re looking for. I can’t get the experience without getting work and I can’t get the work without having experience. It’s a vicious cycle…

I’ve been debating pursing a Masters in Interactive Media to help round out my resume. Unfortunately, this particular piece of paper comes with a $40,000 price tag. Ouch!! While I was lucky to have only incurred $20,000 in student loans pursuing my Bachelors, I’m not certain I’m willing to triple my student loan debt without a guaranteed return on investment.

What do you think – is getting your masters a waste of money? Do you have a masters degree?

vicious cycle image from: http://enjoytherandom.com

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Follow your dreams or follow the money??

How do you know “what you want to be when you grow up?” Making that definitive decision is scary. What if you get it wrong? I have a recurring nightmare of waking up one day, middle-aged and miserable with the life I’ve chosen. I currently straddle the fence between following my dreams and following the money.

I was laid off in August of 2010 with only a year left of undergraduate school. It actually wasn’t the end of the world. I was miserable and thanks to my mother’s never-ending harping on financial responsibility, I had an okay cushion. At the time, I worked for a large insurance company. I was responsible for scheduling and hosting their retirement education webinars, not a bad gig (I got to work from home frequently). But I wasn’t happy.

So I took a long (and not very pleasant) look at myself, along with every aptitude/skills/personality test I could find and finally figured out I’d really like to work in the wide world of marketing (so specific – I know!). I spent the next year graduating with honors (What! What!) and securing an unpaid summer internship at an advertising and public relations firm.

During the summer of 2011 I learned quite a few things about myself; I know what I want to be when I “grow up”, I love social media (seriously, I find its constant evolution and innovative applications endlessly fascinating), and starting over in a completely new industry with no experience at almost thirty is NOT easy.

I work two jobs to make ends meet and have no health insurance. I’m not quite starving for my “art” but I’m not exactly what you’d call rolling in it. I have a long road ahead of me to get back to the pay grade I was at in my former career life but in the mean time I’m enjoying my journey and I actually love what I do.

How about you, are you happy in your current gig? Do you yearn to do something, anything else? How are you making your dreams come true?

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