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Love More, Worry Less

John Lennon wasn’t perfect (cough, ahem, Yoko, cough) but he was right about one thing – all you need is love.

just love lennon quote

No matter where you fall on the dating spectrum, Valentine’s Day brings anxiety and agida. (That’s indigestion for all you non Italian-Americans)

valentine's day 2

If you’re in a committed relationship there are expectations to meet, which can feel even more daunting if you’re in a newly committed relationship.

If you’re single there is a certain exclusion, you don’t really get to participate even if you want to. (Or do you???)

valentine's day

I’ve never had your stereotypical Hollywood Valentine’s Day.

The one and only time I’ve been in a committed relationship for the Holiday of Love I received a coffee thermos as a gift.

Practical? Yes. Romantic? Not at all.

What’s Valentine’s Day really about if you take away all the Hallmark commercialization?

hallmark valentine

150 million of these are given each year!!

February 14th was officially declared Valentine’s Day in the 5th century by Pope Gelasius, although written Valentines were not exchanged until the 1400’s.

During the Middle Ages, in France and England, it was commonly believed to mark the start of birds’ mating season.

bird mating season

Supposedly, Valentine’s Day celebrates any one of three saints called Valentine, all of whom were martyred, one of whom happened to die on February 14th.

Some say it’s a Christianized version of the pagan celebration of Lupercalia.

lupercalia

Celebrated at the ides of February, Lupercalia was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture.

To begin the festival, priests would sacrifice a goat for fertility and a dog for purification. (I guess dogs really are clean animals!)

luprecalia sacrifice

The goat’s hide was then cut into strips, dipped in the sacrificial blood, and taken to the streets, where women awaited and welcomed slaps on the face with the blood soaked goat hide.

This was believed to make them more fertile in the coming year.

fertility

After this loving ritual, all the young women of Rome would place their names in a giant urn.

The city’s bachelors would then each choose a name and become paired for the year with his chosen woman.

Just think about that the next time you lament your relationship status during the month of February!

relationship status

I don’t know about you, but, I’d rather be a little lonely than slapped in the face with a blood soaked hide and randomly paired off with some neighbor for the next year.

So no matter where you fall on the relationship spectrum…

New relationship:

love is a risk peter mcwilliams quoteCommitted relationship:

committed relationshipSingle and loving it:

being single is awesomeSingle and frustrated:

My Love Life

Just remember

love more worry less

Happy Valentine’s Day!!

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Baby Makin’ Time?

These days it seems like everyone around me is catching the itis.

The baby-itis that is.

Don’t worry! I’m not in any danger.

I have the vaccine, it’s called the Nuva Ring 🙂

Don’t get me wrong!

I love kids!

who wouldn’t love this lil nugget??

They’re awesome little people.

Unless their parents are complete assholes, they’re usually innocent, full of wonder, playful, funny, clever, and uncomfortably honest.

If it weren’t for the incessant questions and the inability to understand sarcasm, they’d be my favorite people.

I especially love kids I get to give back!

It’s not that I never want kids of my own. (Calm down Mom!)

It’s that I want to raise my children.

I want to be there every day for every repetitive question, shame-inducing meltdown, and skinned knee.

who wouldn’t want to take this hot mess out in public??

I was privileged enough to have a Mom who was able to be home while I was growing up and I want my kids to enjoy that same privilege.

I just don’t have it in me to pop out a baby and drop them off at daycare two weeks later.

I applaud women who can do that. Most women don’t have the luxury to be a stay-at-home-mom, especially in this economy.

working mom = wonder woman

I’m just too selfish to do it myself.

And I’m not a 30 year old intern working two jobs because I like to stay busy.

I’m working way too hard pursuing my career right now to take a baby time-out.

But I do worry that by the time I’m ready for kids the window of opportunity to bear my own children will have passed and I’ll forever be the super cool aunt who has disposable income and free time for days.

Where do you stand on kids?

Love ’em?

Hate ’em?

Love the ones that aren’t yours?

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