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It Only Hurts If You Let It

I was talking (bitching) to my wicked smart Mom the other day.

All up on my high horse, pointing out the less-than-perfect behavior of another.

And she replied, “why let it bother you?”

I’ll admit, at first, I found her response extremely annoying.

“You’re supposed to be on my side!”

“Well screw you too!”

But, the more I thought about it, the more I realized she was right.

It’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong, how someone else isn’t doing the right thing, but ultimately you are the one who allows outside forces to effect your inner peace.

inner peace

This is NOT a free pass for bad behavior.

“Don’t be a dick” is a code I think everyone should follow.

But there will always be assholes walking the earth.

And you will more than likely have to interact with them on a regular basis.

You have choices in these situations.

life is all about choices

You can allow them to bring you down to their level and return that asshole behavior tit for tat.

While this may feel really good at the time, if you’re anything like me you will then spend the next week chastising yourself for allowing said asshole to elicit such a response from you. (You really are better than that!)

You can say/do nothing.

Take the high road and let your resentment fester and grow by continuously turning that nugget of assholery over and over in your head while complaining about said assholery to friends and family. (This will certainly give you agada. That’s indigestion for all you non-Italians.)

Or

You can accept the fact that sometimes people suck.

It’s not your job to make them suck less.

It’s not your job to point out their massive amount of suckiness (suckitude?).

All you can do is take a deep breathe, accept it, and move on.

acceptance

Because really – ain’t nobody got time for that!

And for all you know, someone did piss in their Cheerios and it’s not personal.

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Cranky Pants Give Me a Wedgie

“I am a strong, beautiful woman that is never static but always growing and learning each and every day.”

This popped up in my news feed the other night, courtesy of the most delightful and light-filled souls I’ve had the pleasure of meeting.

I’d been having the kind of day when you just want to burn it to the ground, get in the car, and drive west.

cranky pants

In other words, I felt like this. Wearing some serious cranky pants with the world’s most painful wedgie!

In fact, the post I was working on (avoiding writing while trolling FB) was about how even though I’m starting a new stage of my career, I’m having trouble feeling grateful. I’ve been stuck in this loop – dwelling on the areas of my life that I feel are lacking – poor me, blah, blah, blah.

And then BAM!

“I am a strong, beautiful woman that is never static but always growing and learning each and every day.”

The things I wish were different in my life aren’t permanent.

I haven’t died.

There is still time for me to learn from my choices and make better ones.

I only have to stay stuck for as long as I make myself.

there's still time to change the road your on

Those 13 words didn’t magically change situations to suite my desires, but they reminded me the only thing that is certain to happen in life is change.

It is up to me how I choose to handle that change, whether I stomp my feet and pout, or learn from the experience, and allow it to help me grow as a person.

happinessThis to shall pass.

It’s a nice reminder on bad days – that there’s an inevitable end.

Good days are different – you want those to last forever – so don’t forget to appreciate them πŸ™‚

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It’s Finally Friday!!! (sort of)

This weekend is the official start of summer! Yayy!! Adventures in Adulthood is taking some much needed time off and skipping straight to Friday this week. Don’t worry we’ll be back to our regularly scheduled programming next week πŸ™‚

Quote of the Day:

fear is stupid

Climbing the Ladder:

Networking sucks. Treating networking like any other friendship can help! And who doesn’t want to make their friends feel smart and insightful?!

DIY:

Does your place have super annoying bi-fold doors?? Turn them into some fancy french doors for next to nothing!

Not just for kids! Super bubbles!!

Round the World:

How absolutely amazing would these trips be?!?

children's book guide to travel

Inspirational:

Life is about choices.

Wine Me, Dine Me:

For those of you who are lactards like me, finally an ice cream you can indulge in! (Also Paleo!)

Fake sugar will rot your insides. How to make your own stevia extract.

Giggles and Such:

Working out at home never works out…

I just lost my grain of thought!

me

da fever

Have a great weekend and Happy Memorial Day!!

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Quit Yer Bitchin’

Chick flicks get a bad rap but, I love them!

Especially The Wedding Date.

Featuring this hunk-a-hunk of burning love.

Yum!

In the movie this slice of delicious is just as smart as he is sexy, and tells our hapless heroine, Debra Messing, that every woman has the exact love life they really want.

Love her!

Which, when you think about it, is also true of life in general.

Life is about choices people.

If you don’t like something about your life make a different choice.

This applies to all facets of life.

Hate your job?

Start looking for a new one.

In a shitty relationship?

Get out!

Always complaining about your looks/weight?

Go to the gym. Get a new haircut.

Stop complaining and start doing.

No one is going to fix your problems for you.

So quit your bitching and start making some changes!

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

DIY:

I don’t know why I never thought of this! So simple!!

Climbing the Ladder:

On the job hunt? Check out the top five personality traits employers look for.

Wine Me, Dine Me:

My birthday is in a little over a month. Whoever makes me these gets my undying love.

Inspiration:

Life is about choices people. Chose to make today great.

Health and Fitness:

Can’t fit in a work-out? LIAR! This takes 30 minutes and all you need is a chair. You totally have both of those things!

Round the World:

Every one of these beautiful beaches is on my bucket list.

Luscious Locks:

For all you girls like me with thick, curly hair, here’s what might be the easiest up-do ever. Don’t worry if you have thinner hair you can give it a try too πŸ™‚

Giggles and Such:

What movies taught me about love

Cheese don’t you string me along

Have a great weekend!

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