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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

luck

Dollars + Sense:

Get into a little feeder-bender? 6 ways to reduce your car insurance rates after an accident.

Looking for some financial freedom?? Try making these counter-cultural decisions.

Body Lovin’:

The science of napping.

Got a serious case of CRS? 7 tricks to help you remember anything.

Climbing the Ladder:

On the job hunt?? 8 ways to make a great first impression when you land that interview.

Out and About:

Friday Fun:

For all you Phans out there impatiently waiting for Fall Tour, check out 7 Below at The Main Pub in Manchester, CT. Show starts at 9pm. $7 at the door.

Looking for an evening of good eats and good tunes?? Check out John Cantalini at La Cucina in Hampden, MA. Music starts at 7:30pm.

Wormtown Music Festival at Camp Kee-Wanee in Greenfield, MA kicks off Friday night with sets by Turkuaz, Ryan Montbleau (featuring special guest Primate Fiasco), Rusted Root and many more! Festival runs Friday thru Sunday. Tickets are $120 at the gate.

Saturday Shenanigans:

Bangfield will be rocking their own brand of hip hop/rock/funk/reggae at Bishop’s Lounge in Northampton.

Sunday Funday:

Feeling nostalgic for Jerry?? Then head down to Sonny’s Place in Somer, CT for the Lobsterz from Mars. Free outdoor show from 1pm – 5pm.

Giggles and Such:

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have a sec

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Have a great weekend!

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Thirty Life Lessons

There’s this great list from Glamour I kept on my fridge for years.

When I cut it out I don’t think I really understood it, but I figured they were things I could work towards (I was sixteen at the time).

There’s now an equally amazing book that came from said list, full of wonderful life lessons from awe inspiring women (my personal fave is from Maya Angelou).

I’m not 30. I’m 29.95 plus tax

As I approach my big 3-0 I’ve been thinking about all the life lessons I’ve personally learned along the way.

I’ve forgotten some of them from time to time.

A couple that I’m definitely old enough to know better!

So I figured I’d write down the top 30 lessons I’ve learned thus far and see if I could save someone else a little trouble 🙂

1.) Family is the most important thing. And it’s not just the family you’re born with.

2.) Stop making up stories explaining the events in your life and just except them. The more time your spend analyzing you life the less time you spend living it.

3.) If it seems too good to be true – it is.

4.) Always trust your gut. That niggling feeling that something isn’t quite right, is always right.

5.) Music is the miracle of life. It has the power to validate your feelings, make a bad day better, celebrate good times, nurse a broken heart, and help you keep on keepin’ on.

6.) Be honest. It’s hard. I know. If you don’t have the balls to be honest with others, at least be honest with yourself.

7.) No one is going to take care of you. Save your pennies and always have some “fuck you” money stashed away.

8.) Everyone has their own narrative and they are rarely EVER the same.

9.) Always be yourself. The most authentic version of yourself you can manage. Never EVER water down your personality for anyone. It’s the best part about you girl 😉

10.) My parents are truly amazing people.

Seriously! They rock!

11.) Talk is cheap. No matter what people SAY it’s what they DO that actually matters. So pay attention.

12.) You can fool yourself better than you can fool anyone else.

13.) Perception really is reality. There’s nothing you can do to change that, so stop wasting your time worrying about what other people think.

14.) Opportunity is usually disguised as hard work.

15.) Dogs are better than most people.

He might eat your shoes, but he’ll never do you wrong.

16.) This too shall pass is a true story. Good or bad, life changes on a dime. Always appreciate what you have.

17.) Stop trying to fast forward your life. Slow the fuck down and just take it all in. It really is all about the journey. Don’t get me wrong, goals are good, but it’s how you get there that really matters.

18.) Be BOLD. Ain’t nobody got time for that pansy ass shit. Figure out what you want and go for it.

19.) Credit cards are a slippery slope. Pay off your balance at the end of each month. You’ll save thousands in interest rates and countless headaches.

20.) Have an excellent tailor and hairdresser. They’ll make you look like a million bucks even when you can’t afford a cup of coffee. (For those of you in the area: Amber LaBorde at Visual Changes in Longmeadow, MA is beyond amazing and A Perfect Fit in Agawam, MA is the only tailor I’ve ever met who continually tries to save me money and does wonderful work with an unheard of turnaround.)

21.) Mind your manners. Especially if you’re sometimes socially challenged. Remembering what your Mama taught you will get you successfully through most interactions and keep you out of hot water.

22.) Read more. Books have lessons we’re all familiar with but hearing someone else’s troubles helps us actually learn them.

23.) A bra that fits right will change your life. Seriously go get fitted for one. I know, it’s awkward and weird but it’s worth it.

24.) Jealousy really is a monster. Keep an eye out for that bitch. She’ll sneak up on you if you’re not careful.

25.) Climbing a mountain will clear your head of all your worries. Even a small mountain 🙂

26.) Learn how to LET GO. (I have to admit I’m still working on this one. It’s super hard sometimes.)

27.) Expectations can be a dangerous thing to have. Manage yours well.

28.) Sex does NOT equal intimacy.

29.) Learn how to confront people effectively. Keeping emotions bottled up inside isn’t healthy, but neither is flying off the handle when you can’t take it anymore. Address your issues upfront and you’ll feel much better in the long run.

30.) A new pair of shoes can change your life.

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Don’t be a Loser

When you play relationship games, everyone loses.

Regardless of your current commitment level, managing expectations is key to any successful relationship/booty call/sex friendship/one night stand, etc.

This is especially important for all you playah-playahs out there.

If you’re looking to keep it foot loose and fancy free it’s imperative to make sure you’re both on the same page.

Even when you’re up front from the start, things can get a little awkward, and people’s feelings can get hurt.

This is when you have to man up and be an adult.

Instead of disappearing when a girl gets too close, just tell her the truth.

“Look, I think we want different things. You want me to be your boyfriend and I just want to put my penis in  you. I could say we’ll stay friends, but we more than likely won’t. If you want to get freaky every now and then though, that’s cool with me. Just don’t expect anything more than a ‘hey what’s up?’ text somewhere in the midnight – 2am range.”

Either she’ll think you’re the world’s biggest douchebag or she’ll appreciate the honesty and you’ll live happily ever after, casually bumping uglies until one of you finds something better.

Now for all you lady playah-playahs, the same rules apply.

There is no excuse for doing a dine and dash on sexy time.

Be up front from the beginning and if you think a man is catching feelings –

DON’T RUN!

Be an adult and have the difficult conversation.

“I really enjoy spending time with you (getting penetrated by you) but I think we want different things. You want to lock all this fabulousness down but I just want to jump your bones every now and then. We can continue to be sex friends so long as you understand there will not be anything more down the road. I’ll continue to text you after I’ve had a couple (too many) and am looking to get stuffed.”

Most guys will jump at the offer of strings free sex. If that’s not what he’s looking for, he’ll appreciate your honesty and you’ll amicably go your separate ways.

So remember, act like an adult.

Be honest, always use protection, and everyone wins.

Happy Humping 🙂

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It’s Finally Friday!!!

Quote of the Day:

DIY:

Have you seen those super cute burlap pillows with sayings on them? Think they’re over-priced?! Me too! Here’s how to make your own!

Climbing the Ladder:

Hit a wall on that new project? Can’t find enough time in your workday? Check out these 3 ways to think deeply and be more effective in the office.

Wine me, Dine me:

For all you fat kids like me who can’t control themselves when there’s baked goods in the house, check out this genius recipe for making a single serving of cake!

Inspiration:

In case you didn’t know October is National Anti-Bullying Month. Bullies don’t go away as you grow up, they just get older. But sometimes you get to put them in their place. This woman is amazing!

Another great story for Anti-Bullying Month:

Health and Fitness:

For the ladies, 8 muscle groups you should NEVER ignore.

Round the World:

Like to fly solo? Check out the best places to explore sans wing man.

Mo’ Money, Mo’ Problems:

13 ways Americans throw away money. Which are you guilty of?

Giggles and Such:

This video makes me wish I had a trampoline and a dog…

I got my tight pants on!

This video has three of my favorite things; cake, Hannah Hart, and Jenna Marbles. You’re welcome 🙂

Have a great weekend!!!

P.S. What do you think of the new categories? Does it make it easier for you to find the Finally Friday feature for you?? What category would you add? Would you get rid of one??

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But we can still be friends…

Have you ever stayed friends with an ex?

It sounds like a great idea until someone’s feelings get hurt AGAIN and then it gets awkward and ugly.

There’s no easy transition from “I’m in love with you” to “let’s be buddies”.

I have actually remained friends with quite a few of my exes.

What can I say? Like my Mom, I have a hard time throwing some things out.

For those of you who don’t know, she’s a border-line hoarder. ILYM 🙂

This ONLY works successfully if you STOP SLEEPING TOGETHER.

I know this part might be really hard for some of you.

So here are some pointers on NOT being an emotional whorebag:

  • Do NOT get drunk with your ex.

Not alone, not at a party, not in ANY place where you can achieve penetration.

Which when you think about it, is pretty much anywhere.

So dude, DON’T GET DRUNK WITH YOUR EX.

DON’T DO THIS!

  • Give it some time man!

You have either broken someone’s heart or had your heart broken.

Grieve! Cry! Break shit!

Do NOT pretend everything is sunshine and roses.

It’s not!

You’re allowed to admit that and take some time

Or allow your ex to do the same.

This actually makes you an adult. Just make sure your break-down is done in private and STAY OFF FACEBOOK!

  • During your time out:

DO NOT CALL THEM

DO NOT TEXT THEM

LEAVE THEM THE FUCK ALONE

If you have to; write their number down, put it somewhere safe, and delete it!

It’s never easy at first, no matter where you fall on the broken-hearted scale.

But it’s always a lot easier, IF YOU STOP SLEEPING TOGETHER!

And dude, seriously, delete that fucking number!!

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